I have a 21 year old son that is once again (for the 3rd time) in detox. He has been addicted to perecot for 3 years. I thought he was drug free after he got out of last rehab but after stealing and cashing checks of his brother he admitted that he needs help to get off of the pills and has never been clean even coming out of rehab. My husband (his dad) and I have stood behind him 110% - but I do not know how much more I can do this. My husband is recently disabled and my nerves are shot. My son says that he doesn't mean to hurt us but he continues to steal from us to support his habit. What is my next step when he comes out of detox? I think it's time that if he relapses again he's going to have to leave our home and find a place to go. I can no longer jeoparadize my health or the health of my husband. Does anyone have any suggestions for us to get through this?
Hi Debby, I am so sorry for what you and your husband are going through. Is there a disciplinary school that he can attend, such as a naval academy, that will keep him clean and instill discipline?
Hi i know what you are going through. Detox is not enough he probley needs longterm treatment 6 months or more. Your son is telling you the truth he doesent meen to hurt you He has a disease that needs treatment If he does not agree to long term treatment you may have to tell him to leave.Its the hardest thing in the world for a parent to do. I know because I had to do it.It probley saved my daughters life.I pray it works out for all
Hello~
I am going through the same thing. My son will be 23 next month,just got of rehab after 3 months and was using again within 2 days! Unfortunately I didn't know til I got a statement from one of my credit cards stating I must have had trouble at the ATM so they were reminding me of my pin,yeah,he had done that before I sent him to rehab so I knew right away what had happened. Something told me to to check my jewelry and sure enough,GONE!
Sound familiar? Sad that ALL addicts have the same story :( My husband did put my son out but it has been harder on me then him I think. Tried getting him to go to a 4 week rehab and he said he would AFTER he got high?! Obviously he is not serious about wanting to quit so I have to walk away.There is also a 12 month program I tried to get him in but he says that is too long,always an excuse.....
My daughter is 34 and has 3 children. Drugs have caused her to loose custody of her children. Drugs have landed her in jail for theft and shoplifting. She has stolen from me, my son, my mom, her aunt, her friends and on and on. She has been in jail since June 14th. I will not get her out. I want her forced into a 2yr rehab program that we have here. Its very strict. You can't drop out because you go straight to jail. Depending on your crimes, you could go to prison. I know she has been going thru withdrawals and having a rough time but I love her more than she has been loving herself. I don't know what else to do. I'm trying to save her life! I feel for all of you as we are all broken hearted and frightened for our children! I will keep you all in my prayers!
I am an addict, addicted to oxycodone, so I understand what you are going through. When we get high addicts think they only hurt themselves, which is not true. We leave a lot of wreckage behind. It's only after we get clean that we see all the pain we have caused. Your son doesn't want to hurt you. In my case I just like to get high. I don't need a reason, I just have to wake up. I was so scared of withdrawls that I would do anything to get the money I needed for the drugs. I went to multiple doctors to get the meds. It is a process to get high. For me I had to go to jail and lose everything. That's when I decided I had enough pain. I couldn't get clean for anyone but myself. I couldn't even do it for my kids. When he's had enough pain he'll stop. Some of us can't stop without help,long-term help. We have to hit our own bottom. I hope for you and your family he can get the help he needs. I'll be praying for him.
Hi Debby...Sounds like you're getting some good support here...It seems you've realized that you need to make a plan instead of just hoping for the best...It would be best that your son not be allowed back in your home at this time and transition to a sober living environment where he has some accountability, structure and amongst other recovering people...Would be great if he could undergo long term treatment but possibly not financially available...I just know ( by what you've described) it is asking for trouble for him to come home right now and wearing on you...Find him ( or have detox facility find it) a sober living environment and go from there...You guys rebuild your relationship slowly...
Hang in there...
Well my husband did put my son out of the house. I got him in a sober living house but he was still using only he moved onto heroine which is even more dangarous! I tried yet another rehab but he left after 2I days. His step dad found him going through his car the next morning after he had walked all night after from the rehab center. He was going to take him back but ehile he was getting dressed my son shot kerosene into his foot, said he was trying to kill himself. He spent 2 weeks in the hospital. I would sit with him,try to talk to jim,anyway he managed to steal $1400.0 from me. His dealer actually brouvght heroine to him at the hospital! Finally I said enough! He has neen in jail 3and weeks &the says hw has had enough. God I hope so. He will be released to yet another rehad but if he doesn't comply will go back to jail. I hope jail has helped we'll see. Best of luck to you all on this wrenching journey.
Wow…What an adventure you’ve been through…I hope this does it this time and starts him on the road toward recovery…Can’t even start till he’s clean (3 wks. in jail) so that maybe his treatment will be different this time…Make sure the treatment ctr. has his history of the last few weeks ( especially) and who his dealer is to better keep him safe and confront his environment so he can gain better personal strength…I suggest you and your husband use this time to broaden your support system to not have history repeat itself…
You will be in my thoughts and prayers and I hope your son is returned to you ( minus the ugly addiction)…
Yes an adventure I would not wish on my worst enemy! Sorry about my misspellings, I'm on my phone &the keypad is so small. Thank you for your words of encouragement. It's good just knowing someone understands.
I hear you on the adventure you could do without…I hope your son is placed somewhere that gives you a reprive to gather your thoughts and he is “safe”…You’ve seen that when someone is craving they can get drugs anywhere ( hospital, jail etc)…I believe we have these horrible experiences so we can eventually help others and that somehow makes the nightmare worth having lived through…I hope you set some good boundaries and I will be praying that this is the time that will make a difference…Unfortunately, people don’t get well in our time frame…Try to do something good for you today…Would love for you to go to my facebook page: Awakenings Treatment Services
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Good luck on this very agonizing quest…