51 and I just told my wife that I am Bi. We have two young kids, a house and a dog. What now, what can do now that I am out?
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You're married. Stay faithful to your wife. Why would this revelation change the commitment you made to her...and your children?
Being faithful goes without question. My wife thinks I should explore my other side. Have to say I would like to but, faithful I shall remain.
@Ian@westcoast Well it sounds like she’s accepting, so that’s good. I’m not one for being intimate with more than one person at a time, but maybe that would be something to discuss with her. It could allow you that opportunity to explore while also being “faithful” so to speak. Talk to her and see if that’s something that would work for the two of you.
Good for you for telling her. So many keep these secrets and you should be applauded for honesty. Now the work begins...
Did you always know you were bi and just felt like you needed to hide it?
I think it was in my mid 20s that I knew. It just happens the hiding, you do it to fit into the "normal life". Nothing about that life was normal, all just masks and lies.
Good for you. I've been in your shoes. You must feel a huge weight lifted off of your shoulders. I know it can be stressful keeping that a secret and worrying that you'll be found out.
Just remember you've had years to work this out. You wife will probably need some time to really process this. Make sure she's feeling desired by you and keep your connection strong. I'm going to support you so you can pm me if you'd like.
Thanks