A bit of a weird question. Did anyone have anxieties of their unfaithful spouse hurting them, poisoning them or something like that after D-day. My counsellor says it is pretty common because our world is shattered and we mistrust them so much after the affair. Just wondering if anyone else had those far out types of thoughts in the beginning when their world came crashing down.
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Yep. I saw him as 2 people actually. The man i loved, and the man i had to watch out for. I even had a nightmare in which he was lying sleeping peacefully in bed while he was also blocking the door in a physically threatening manner.
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It affects not only the faithful spouse but the family's anxiety. Not too long after DDay we went away go for the weekend. My 23 yr old daughter called me and I was sleeping and my husband her Dad answered and told her I was napping. When I got home later in the week she told that she was worried that my husband had taken me away and killed me. So I think it would be common also.
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Yikes! I honestly didn't think of that. I think he was sleeping with one eye open.... that is rant scary. People do crazy things when they get desperate.
After I found out about my husband, I would have nightmares that he was trying to kill me or take our son away, it was horrible. I think it was because he was acting so weird after I found out, at that point I didn't know what he was capable of and I think that's why I had nightmares.
That is not common but feeling like it is might be.
I personally don't have those thoughts, purely because I do everything around my house, and he pretty much sits on his lazy butt and plays video games. So I have no need to worry for that. However, I could totally understand how people would feel that way.
I had these feelings. Didnt help i was having stomach issues at the time. Also thought for a time that he was trying to have me comitted. I can relate to the comment above about the kids worrying too. My daughter worries if we go away and she cant contact me.
I had the same nightmares. I also felt like he was going to have me committed also b/c of telling me I was crazy the last two years when I would question him. It's a horrible feeling.