A book that was a good help for me is entitled "Widower, when men are left alone" I bought mine off Amazon. It can be ordered also from B&N. It is out of print. The story of 20 widowers. Very insightful, helpful, in the language of men who have been there.
What particularly did you find helpful, what piece of advice would you share from it to another new Widower?
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