A new beginning I need

Physical Health Healthy Eating and Weight Management
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A new beginning

Goal weight 60kg/132lbs
weight at present moment around 102-105kg/224.4-231lbs

Hello everyone my name Stella and I need not just help,but all the support I can get from ladies /gentlemen who go through this struggle everyday of their lives

Where do I start,this is so hard to do ,,,why is this the most difficult thing to do ..why do I sabotages myself time and time again ,why can I not just stick to it and be strong ...
These are the question I ask myself time and time again I've been living in my own nightmare for years.
I've got the books I've read them, I've got the DVD why don't I do the workouts ,I have the stationer bike in the corner of my bedroom why do I not use .

I crave the sweet stuff the carbs ...and begin obese is not doing my healthy any good ,I see it I feel it ,but yet still I stay in the inner circle of denial ,my comfort zone ..
Yet everytime I look in the mirror and see what I have became see how far it has gone ,I just keep on hating myself .
Have you every been at the point where you said to hell with this ,this is what I look like this is what I have became .
a liar a cheat ----yes I lied to myself and I have cheated myself ,so in this moment what would be good for me ....anyone has an answer?

SO I GUESS LITTLE STEPS ,I need to take little steps
I'm sitting here with a glass of water ,,,and I hate drinking water ,I've had my cereal ,and snack already ...

Waiting for Lunch hour ...and in my head I'm already wondering what I will be having for dinner ..
already wondering if I'm eating the right stuff ,tonight however I have made up my ming tonight I will start with my 1st workout ..

Do about 15 mins of it and then build from there ,this week 15 next week 20 etc and so it will go until I can do an hour each day ...I have to get my eating right so any idea ???

Oh and am looking for a buddy someone that will be here everyday ..so it does not matter from what time zone you from as along as we can leave each other messages every day. That would be great.

So that all I have today hope to hear from someone soon who's just as desperate to lose the weight as I'am
peace out Stella

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stella01-

thanks for sharing, reading about you, i feel like its reading about me. I wonder why things won't stick, why i can't stay motivated; and its hard. The only thing that i have come to the conclusion about is that i don't want to diet and i want to create a healthy life. So i try to eat healthy with lots of veggies, cooking at home, not eating at restaurants or packaged foods as much. But I also decided not to deprive myself and eat stuff, like sweets, in moderation. so if i want a piece of cake at a party i will have a small slice, but will try and add fruit to that and get fruit into my diet.

The drinking water gets easier and soon you will see that you actually would prefer water to other drinks. I used to never drink water and only in the past couple of years did i really start and now i love it. the small steps is the way to go to keep this going in the long run

also, maybe join a workout group in your area or set a goal like doing a walking event, or running a 5k. I recently decided to do that with a girlfriend of mine, and having the deadline of doing a race is motivating. At first i was scared, but now that i have been exercising more regularly i am actually starting to get excited about the race and also am happy that i am running more than i ever have in my whole life (fyi i hate running but its growing on me) and i start to feel good afterwards. I just like the whole race idea and trying to accomplish something new that i would never do is pushing me to exercise. So if running is not your thing, walk a race, i will probably do that as well.

Sorry for the long post, but hope this helps a little, and please keep writing and letting us all know how you are doing.

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Thank you Victoria1981

It day 2 and already I have been worried about my eating plan ,and You right I hate the idea of going on a diet ,not being able to eat what I want to when I want to .

I have tried so many diets over the years ,and I would lose like 6lbs and I would start sabotaging myself ,it like being fat is a place to hide in ,I hate it but I still want to do something about it .

I think it that inner images I have that I would always be fat ,I cannot imagine myself as thin ..
Running huh I don't even know how to do that here I have never been good at it ,walking I will do.

It like I wonder being thin what the use ,why can people not just accept me for who I'm see beyond all the fat I'm carrying around .
But I will get there thanks for the advise once more ..

Have a wonderful day
Stella.

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Stella i hope you are doing well this week.

I have finally given up on the idea of being thin cause the numbers on the scale barely move. so finally i just want to be healthy and tone no matter what the scale says. ever since i started working out more lately i noticed that doing activities with friends like biking or water skiing is a bit easier and i am not as sore as i used to be. So i am letting those kinds of things motivate me to keep going. so far worked out twice this week, and one day was really tough, but made myself do it.

Don't worry about being "thin" or what you think is thin, cause i worry that i may never be thin enough for myself and i never want to go down a slippery slope of losing weight the wrong way. Focus on your health and how walking or whatever exercise makes you feel. Hopefully its less stressed, clears your mind, time to get some peace and relax.

Good luck! and let me know how you are doing!

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Hi Victoria1981

you have read my mind I think it more stress full trying to lose weight ,and that we keep on thinking about it so like you I have stop worrying ,instead I'm going to just relax ...choice better option when it comes to food ...
I think we try to much to do the right thing eat the right things exercise in other words killing ourselves
I know my weakness ,,,it sugar so I have started not going cold turkey ,but I have started cutting my sugar intake in half .so instead of taking 3 teaspoons of sugar I take 2 now ,drink more water .I'm not going to count calories ,but have taken to eat my food on a smaller plate ,cereal in a dessert bowl ,mix water and milk etc ..I have to start doing my workout soon ...
I keep on promising myself that I'm going to do it ,but chicken out when I get home lol

yesterday I fasted the whole day ,and only had water ,last night I had an omelet with 2 piece of toaster to break the fast.

it about 0835am and I'm about to have my breakfast , warm cereal with a little milk 1 teaspoon of sugar on it.

so here to a new day ..have fun

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i think that is a good attitude to have, making small changes, because going cold turkey is hard and never works. And it sounds like your meal changes are really good; i hope the fasting is not part of the diet, don't forget to eat please.

with working out it is hard, but start slow, can you walk in your neighborhood? maybe take a walk around the block, or even go for a walk at lunch time. it doesn't have to be long, start with 20 minutes. walk with a friend or listen to music (which is what i do).

You can also try get a mini stair stepper to work on while you watch tv, or even do small exercises like squats or walking in place while you hang out at home. Start slow and find what works for you. It will be a lot of trial and error in that department.

But you are doing a great job! keep it up!

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Hi Victoria1981.

Don't worry the fast is for spiritual reason not to lose wait .
I do have a mini stepper so you right will get that going ,clean forgot about.
It just seems that, so ok I'm taking this slow that I have forgotten a few things ...today is one of those day ...that I look at things and try to solve it puzzle ,but I will get there this I know ..

My water intake has been great ,Now I know why I use to have that the metal taste in my mouth was because I was just very thirsty
It's amazing how we can forget to look after ourselves at time ..Sugar huh that still a problem ,but hey it been 5 days and so far I have not had to much I can say ..
so that a good start .

So tell me how has you last few days been like?

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Hi Stella and Victoria, In reading your posts I felt I was reading about myself. I can so relate. I would like to lose some weight myself. Maybe about 30 - 40 pounds. I don't like doing diets either. I am now into trying to eat healthier as you mentioned. I do need to start walking again. I quit during the summer because it was so hot and humid here. I just need to get my butt back into doing it. I also have a stationary bike that is just sitting there. I have though been getting outside more and doing things which makes me feel better. I feel a difference in my clothing - they are a little loser even though I don't show any change in my weight. I figure with getting more active in doing outside things, I must have been toning up some. Exercise can be a fun thing. There is dancing, playing badminton, swimming - some things I enjoy doing and have lost weight before doing these. What are some things that you enjoy doing that you can get a workout from?

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Hi stella-

Glad to hear that water has been good and that you are doing well. This week has been a bad food week because i have been going out more to meet with friends. I'm trying not too worry about that too much because i did going running a couple of times and also did an at home work out video. Otherwise nothing too over the top. It is such a slow moving process. I biggest problem is being consistent with working out, so far i have been good for the past 2 weeks, just have to keep it up. Good luck with the stair stepper. And don't worry about the sugar. I go through waves of wanting it then not wanting it. If i want sugar then i have a cookie or something. If you feel like sugar have a little, just try and have a little less than you normally would. It gets better with time.

bluidkiti - thanks for the post, its nice to have support. I met with a friend today to watch some football and walked to meet him, so i figure that was at least something. better than driving. i am trying to not drive as much and walk to either the grocery store, or even to meet friends.

let me know ho you both are doing!

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Good morning victoria1981 and Bluidkiti.

Bluidkiti WELCOME the more ppl we have the better to support each other ..

Victria ...hope you had a great week end.
So this was my week end i weighed myself and i lost not even 1 lbs, and i realized that if this was me in the past I would have been crying and be so depressed and wonder why I was doing it ,but this time around I just accepted it ..I have joined another group on facebook ...team or group leader is a woman called Bonnie Matthews she has a worldwide challenges called
'Get Bon with Bonnie Matthews' it's a challenges to kick start your weight lose now here a woman who did it all on her own she was even invite by Dr QZ to be one of his warriors so if you on facebook you will find me under Stella Renecke and maybe you guys can come and join the fun.

My Plan for this week ,eat my breakfast on time ,have my snack in the form of fruit eat a small lunch and have my supper ,Bonnie has give a challengs this week do the challengs and add a little more to it .

foodwise: incorporate 1 whole
bag of chopped spinach into your diet. use a whole head of garlic all
week. Fitnesswise: do each of these every other day=do bicep pushups against your kitchen counter! 3 sets of 6 or 12. Do stand in place lunges 3 sets of 6 or 12 on each leg. Video ...instructions to follow at 3pm today. Have FUN!!!!! you can also have a look her video

Get Bon with Bonnie Matthews Challenge #2 for Sept 12th week!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYNL2MItrzo

Let me know what you guys think.

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First I love yr name:) I felt like you were describing me, i currently weigh 90 kg and want to be a nice healthy 65 kg. I just got an excercise bike and started using it today, 15 minutes. little by little right. anyways i hope you are staying positive and well!!!
Ciao Ciao

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Stella-

that group sounds great! i will definitely check out the video. And i am so proud that you did not get upset about the weight. If it makes you feel better i am up 2 pounds, but i have been working out every other day, so i do feel good despite the number.

Welcome to the post garfield! Great job on working out on the bike. I have been doing some at home videos here to keep active when i can’t get outside! love all the positive suggestions on being healthy and losing weight the right way.

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Thanks Victoria, I totally agree that we should all focus on being healthy. Weight is only a number, right? In my case I have tried dieting for the past year, and it just hasn't worked for me. I keep up with it for a bit and then I get fed up with it, because I haven't seen a real change and I like to eat. So I am starting to eat smaller portions and exercise! Anyways good luck to you all this week, and stay positive:)
Ciao Ciao

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Garfield... Welcome .

I total agree with you Garfield ,the word diet is the worsted word ever to describe what we doing ...I rebel against it totally ,hell it when they tell you want you cannot eat ,that ,that's the 1 st thing you wanna grab and eat .

But thinking of just eating healthy making up your mind that the right foods the right amount is good for you ,the sense of knowing that you not restricted of eating certain things ,then it seems ok ...'have you piece of cake ,a small piece not everything' ,but then again you know what going to happen once you eat it ,a sugar and wrong carbs rush and that all you start craving and need ...

I know for a fact that I'm additive to sugar hell yesterday was so bad ,I cut down from 3 sugars to 1half and because of that I craved it even more I felt like a zombie yesterday heheh
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Next week I will try not to add any to my tea's and coffee or just simply stop drinking it ,Soda not a big fan of it ,but I love my fruit juices ..

So here where I have been very lazy!!!!! ..Exercise I started off with it and then stopped ,I need to get with the program ASAP.
But when I get home and I sit down then it tickets, I know I will not get that workout in at all .

I have also started a journal a food journal so maybe that will help more.

Victoria : have you measured yourself ...I find that I never get the right information on the scale ,but I can see the inches coming off ...so try that too.

I would bet a $100 ( which with our Rand would be a hell of alot of money hehe) that it just water retention

So until tomorrow happy healthy day to you all

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Yeah diet is a horrible word, and it’s just a quick fix anyways. When I diet maybe I get rid of a little weight, but then when I stop I gain it back plus more:(
I know sugars and carbs are very addictive, and I always crave carbs. My advice about the sugar in yr tea is just gradually take it down, our bodies build tolerance to the things we put in them. So when we go from 3 sugars to 1/2 our body says whoa this is not right, and then you go through a sugar withdrawl.
I know it can be hard to exercise when you get home from work, maybe you could wake up a little earlier and do it before work. That’s what I am doing, and if you start out yr day with even a 15 minute walk, you will feel better the rest of the day.
Anyways good luck with the sugar thing, and hope you have a great day tomorrow:)

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I WILL BE YOUR BUDDY!
i love your enthusiasm and it motivates me even more!
i have an awesome easy way to help you start loosing weight! i did it for 2 weeks and lost 10 pounds easy. and all i did for excersize was walk 10-15 mins a day!
if your interested in it, message me, and then we can b buddys. i have insomnia so im always on here now lol.
and at night is when i have the best ideas!

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Sami ...thanks you ...what every idea you have that can help us lose the lbs i'll more then listen ,and in 2 weeks you lost a total of 4 kg ,that loike amazing ....
rock on girl ...

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lol thanks you too! good luck! and if my doctor comes up with anymore tips! ill b more than happy to share them

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stella-

stay strong, i know the sugar front is tough, but at least you're not going cold turkey, and it is more important to create a healthy lifestyle with good habits and you are definitely doing that. I am trying really hard to stick to every other day work outs right now. it is really hard, and when nighttime hits i have no desire to workout, so i try to do it earlier in the day.

And thanks for the tip on measuring, i never thought about that. I will take my measurements and keep track especially since this is the first time i have been on a steady workout run. going on week 3 wish me luck!

FYI - my new dessert is special k with red berries. its a good cereal and fulfills my sugar craving.

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hello ladies i read about something new i guess it may not be new to some of you it called the Kafogenic diet has nayone heard of it ?

oh by the way the last two day i did get in a mini workout and must tell you my legs are so sore ,but it feels good.