Recently my Boyfriend left me and I have to move my things out by the fourth of January. It has been a really rough time and it happened so fast. He told me nothing was wrong and was telling me he loved me but then out of the blue he left me. I wonder how long it will take to actually have a life. I was consumed with our life and now it is going to be completely different. I loved him with all of my heart and I am still so hurt. I wonder why he hid his feelings and wouldn't just tell me something was wrong. I want him to come back to me but I don't think it is possible. I am trying to cope and I am afraid to start a new life. We slept together every night and we spent a lot of time together. Now I am just so confused.
A-bay1, I know that it's a difficult and confusing time for you, but try to look at it as a new year and new beginning. If he is meant to be in your life, then he will most definitely be. But, I think that this is a time for you to focus on yourself and begin a new beautiful chapter in your life.
You are in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you tons of healing and positive thoughts.
Thanks so much, I really appreciate it and the support is so comforting. It is nice to know that other people are here for me. You have a great point about a new year, I just really hope this one turns out well. I am considering looking into craigslist to find some friends but I am not to sure yet. Just people to hang around with and I wish there was a way to predict the future.
I know that this is going to be a great year for you....we're all here in this together and here to support one another. Please know that you're not alone.
Keep sharing. I would love to know how you're doing.
We have talked today for a little bit back and forth but not really about anything significant. He is going on vacation tomorrow and I bet he wont even think about me. Its such a hard thing to go through to know that he wont even miss me a little.
Happy New Year! Wishing you all of the very best and a new year filled with new beginnings and much success.
How are you doing today, how are you feeling? I know that what you're going through is not easy. And, please don't think that he won't miss you or think about you, as I am sure that he's going through a tough time with it as well.
I am actually doing pretty well today. I guess just taking it one day at a time is a easier than trying to figure out what Im going to do about this and that when it occurs. I am glad to be surrounded by so many positive people.
But how are you today??
That is so wonderful to hear and makes me so happy. I am happy that you are taking it one day at a time, and really focusing on yourself. As well, there is nothing better than being surrounded by so many positive people. Please stay on this great path, and you will see how everything falls into place.
I am doing great! Thank you so much for asking. Taking it one day at a time, and trying to be positive and happy each day regardless of what's going on. Going to make this year my best one yet...it's up to me to make that happen and I'm working hard on it.
I agree, this year should be lived to the fullest. I don't want to miss out on things this time around. I can't wait until It is nice and warm again!
Such a brilliant attitude and outlook! I am right there with you. I felt like I was in cruise control last year and just going with the motions of my life, and this year I'm definitely taking control and making significant changes. Each and everyday matters, let's make the most of it :-)
Tonight I moved my stuff out of Justins it was so hard. I cried so hard and I feel so sick now. I am trying to laugh it off and relax but I have such a headache. I really miss him.
I know how hard that must have been for you, but it's a huge step in the right direction. Allow yourself to cry and feel the pain for now, it's good to get it all out of your system. The only thing that will heal is time. You have such a great attitude and outlook, I love that you are trying to make yourself laugh...that's so great. When I went through a break-up a 6 weeks ago, I went through a fun roller coaster of emotions and time really healed and helped me get through it. Also what helped was cutting all communication with him, because there's no way that I would have healed otherwise. A friend of mine's been going through a break-up but he keeps contacting her and she still hasn't been able to appropriately heal and move-on.
Try to focus only on you, surround yourself by good positive people, cry, laugh, let yourself feel emotions, it's so normal.
I am here to help you through this in any way that I can.
I think you are right. I am going to just stop contacting him at all now that I don't have those connections to worry about. I spent the whole day out with friends again, it was a lot of fun and I hardly thought about him. It was nice to get out and feel that way again. I laughed so much.
I am sorry to hear about your break-up and I am glad you made it through alright. It is so tough to see or even hear about other peoples break-ups let alone go through your own. I really am grateful for all of my friends and for you, it has been a lot easier on me then I feel it would have been taking this all alone.
Thank you so much for your sweetest and most wonderful words. I am so thrilled to hear that you were out with friends and had such a great day. That's what it's all about. Break-ups are a roller coaster ride of emotions, but one thing that I know is that the good emotions start over-riding the bad ones with time. Each day gets easier and easier. When I was going through my break-up, my heart hurt so much and I'd cry a few times per day. Though, I knew that each day would get easier. I would pray and meditate, spend time with family and friends. Then one bright and shiny day I woke up as if nothing had ever happened. It doesn't mean that you won't think about it, but you'll feel so much more disconnected from it when you do. I know that you are well on your way. Please know that you are not alone, I am here to help you in any way that I can.