I went to emerg today because I was bleeding and found that my baby had stopped developing at 8 weeks and there was no heartbeat. I should have been 12 weeks today. My heart is numb and hurting. My husband and my daughter are so sad and I am trying to stay strong for them, telling them that we will keep trying but I am in shock myself. This stuff is something that happens to other people....not to me. That is the way we feel about this stuff. I am in a lot of pain and am having a D&C on Thursday. I can't believe that my baby that we were so excited about has to come out. I feel like my body failed me somehow. I wish I knew why this happened. I wish I knew how to feel...I feel numb. It makes me so angry that women that want babys can't have them and the ones that don't want them, get rid of them. I just wish I knew why God had to take my baby. You know?
Hi what could have been, I am so very sorry for the loss of your baby. I had two miscarriages in between my second and last child. I know what it feels like. Please make sure to check about counseling for yourself. When I was asked about counseling, I said I would be ok not having it but I wished I had had counseling. Did your doctor say you would be ok to have more babies? If so, give yourself time to heal from your loss and then try again. If counseling isn't suggested then you should talk to your doctor about it. Please keep sharing with us. We are all here for you. ((((hugs))))
I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope your d&c went well. I had an u/s and learned my baby had no heartbeat on a Friday and scheduled d&c for Monday but most of the miscarriage happened before the d&c. I hope this was not your case.
I definitely understand the seeming injustice of who God chooses to give babies to. The other day a mother here put her 10 day old baby in a washing machine.
There is also the why me - my sister in law found out she was pregnant two weeks after me - she already had three other children and I had none. Now she has another one and every time I see my nephew I think I would have a baby the same age. It is very hard.
Not only did my body fail me but the doctors offered no explanation as to why this happened. Unfortunately, even today, miscarriage is very common.
Even though I had a similar experience I won't say I know how you feel. Talking to other people and a lot of crying helped me.
You do need to be strong for your husband but also know he will be strong when you can't.