I am recentley divored.I find myself going over and over in my head.... everything that went on in my failed marrige.I am experianceing loneliness,and get deppressed lateley.Is this common after divorce?
Rubey,
Once you move on in your life thoughts of your past will fade. I know that sounds so simple that is the way I was able to forget my failed marriage. I found another positive interest that fills my life. It took time to find it. Now I look forward not backwards. It may time time keep looking. What were some of your interests before and during your marriage? There is hope!
For me, my divorce has been final for about 3 months and I thought I was doing fine. It was a mutual decision to divorce and I felt like things were going great. I got a full time job with benefits, found a nice place to live, went back to school and then it hit. There are days that for no apparent reason I can't stop crying or I feel like I will be alone forever or I just get very depressed. Then it passes again. I will say that it is starting to happen less often. I don't know if it's normal or not, but I know that you aren't alone. The hardest part for me is not having anyone to talk to when it hits. My friends don't understand because none of them are divorced. I think it's only natural to mourn in some way. Just know that it will get easier with each passing day. Just make sure that you don't become a hermit. Continue to live your life because you deserve it.
Mourning is part of the process. If you need someone to talk to I am a good listener! We all need a friend to share the good and not so good times.
Mary