i love my mother i love my mother i love my mother i love my mother......but dang i dont know a good way but direct and blunt to tell her she needs to see a psych. her low self esteem had brought about me with low self esteem and at least i am now facing it and trying to get better and she is in total denial
I'm sorry that you are having so much difficulty with your mother. Are you having trouble bringing it up to her because she is against seeing one?
no i am having trouble bringing it up because she is convienced they are all there to take our money and not help us. i should mention that my mother is very paranoid about a lot of stuff.
I’m really sorry to hear that. I wonder if maybe printing some self esteem work-packets or something for her to look at might do any good?
My mother needs to see someone too. The way she 'rubs off on me' emotionally is so very different, but the bottom line is that she is very sucked in to codependent/dependent behaviors, and I am a huge part of that. It's hard to look at someone who hasn't done any work, when you are really trying- in my case for YEARS- to do the work.
Maybe the best thing you can do is back off and let her do her thing until it is her time. That's what I've done- just backed the **** up. The only thing I really have control over is me. Me and me alone. My emotions. My help. My body. Me. And the control thing is a WHOLE nother deal, but whatever. I do have control (or the illusion of it) over my emotions and how I live my life. And I can't tell my mother (as much as I ****ing WANT TO) to go see a shrink, because she'll become more defensive.
I don't know the situation with your mom, but I wanted to share a little bit about what I've learned with mine. Sometimes I feel like I'm just going in circles with her, which makes me just want to throw my hands up and walk away, but I know that she is family, and she'll be around for a while, and I have to just do what I can to live MY life, and unfortunately let her nose dig deeper and deeper into the ground. You know, nothing happens until it happens.
Just wanted to share- it helped me see a lot about what I feel about my mom and I's relationship, so thank you.
~S