does anybody out there have a year more of sobriety and would like to talk.
I am 60 days clean and have been married to an alcoholic for 23 yrs who was in and out of AA so much I could play poker for a lifetime on his one day chips. I have been a member of al-anon since I got married but everyday is just as new as the first day I walked in
If I can help I would love to lend an ear
Hugs
Teddy
my boyfriend and i have been together 8 years July and he does not drink, but he has seen me in my worse, i am a scary alcoholic, i have been sober since June 16th 2010 and i have such a better life, some days i have the urge to drink but it passes, and i feel so much better after the urge is gone and i have not drank, thank you for posting a comment , i am new to this online thing but it helps talking to someone, also its hard for me to get to a meeting because my license is suspended till Jan 20th. TY have a good day.
your welcome, you can come here when you feel the need and remember it only takes two to have a meeting.
You have the strength to beat anything you set your mind to. The urge is always going to be with you you just need to set up counter measures so that when it comes you have a plan of action to push it away and you can move on.
Your drinking took you to places that made you into your own worse enemy but each time you walk away from the urge you are saying you love yourself more then the need to have that drink. In other words you are your own best friend now.
Trust me there is no such thing as a good drunk I did not drink but my husbands drinking took me to drugs, prescription pain pills, I lived in and out of the "fog" for years his verbal and emotional abuse usually brought on by his drinking made life unbearable for me. I stayed with him for 23 yrs because he was a good provider and father to our children but that came with a price and that price was my own self-worth and dignity. He called every nasty name you can be called he even several times made me get on my knees to grovel to him thanking him for all he did for me he had me do this in front of our own children too. He says it didn't happen because he was drunk and can't remember so of course I had to have made it all up.
He also owns a Nazi uniform that he would wear around the house he idolizes Hitler and treated me like I was nothing to him but an item he would bring off the shelf when he had a need of me. I am 13 yrs younger then he is and he even used that as a means to control me he handled the money and bills the shopping he would only give me small amounts of cash for like gas to run around for him or the kids I had to ask if I needed something.
I couldn't get him to see what he was doing to me or the kids he was all about him and what he wanted he recently abandoned me in a home he is letting get foreclosed on I am fighting him in court for the money to move out because he isn't giving me any money before he left he sold my car leaving me trapped in this house but I know whatever happens I am going to be better then where I have been I just have to over come this hurdle he has thrown at me