Nobody in the world would care If i was alive or not . I have nobody to call for help in an emergency. My Family don’t care they say go make friends which I have tried , It is so scary been alone
I would recommend that you forget/ignore other people caring about you. It doesn’t really make a difference to your life, although because of our society, I understand why people think it does.
Most people seem to think/believe that “caring” by other people is a good thing. But it’s really not. What it is is other people getting involved with someone else’s suffering and the sufferer wants other people to feel like they do so the other people can “understand how they feel” or “feel what they feel”. Why would someone want to do that to someone else, is my question?
Caring about others is really about us not feeling bad, because we can’t actually feel what someone else feels. Its just like love - we can’t actually feel someone else’s love, we just believe someone does love us when they tell us they do, or they act in a certain way.
The key in life is not to suffer. ALL OTHER THINGS become far less important/negligible/vanish when you are not suffering. But suffering is a choice, which is what I discovered after suffering for about 35 years. This is because suffering comes from thoughts, and the thoughts we choose to give attention to and then the thoughts we believe. Giving attention and belief in a thought gives it phenomenal power and it then seems to be real/true. But thoughts are never true or real (non-functional ones).
Thoughts come without us knowing why or what kind of thoughts come, or when. The thoughts we have are not self-generated or “our own” and we do not have a choice as to what thoughts we have. But we have 100% choice on giving thoughts our attention and giving attention & belief to thoughts makes them very powerful, when they have no power of their own, at all.
So you can choose to not give attention to the thoughts that you have and once you do, you will see the recede and then disappear.
We are all actually alone, even if we have other people around us, in our lives, etc. We are born alone and die alone. Perhaps you have heard or read about people who are married, have a family, extended family, or have a social life, they work close together with other people, etc., yet they feel alone. Other people around us do not take away the feeling of loneliness - this is a widespread fallacy.
Loneliness is, again, caused by thoughts and so you can free yourself from the feeling of loneliness, if you want to.
Your feelings are valid. one thing that has helped me is meetup.com. They have events and groups even some just for friendship. They also have some online groups. Vancouver laughter yoga club is really fun. I also am very lonely. One thing that helps me is, you can’t take a snapshot and say this is your whole life because it’s really just a season.
This is really good. I would add that we are Energy. I feel others Energy. That is what I am wanting to connect to. Thanks for the comment to Sasha though.
I have 3 dogs and they give me love and I feel it.
I have long thought this too. that we are all energy, as are all other things on this planet, including all life forms, rocks, mountains, sand, water, wind and things invisible to our eyes. In an elemental sense, we are everyone else and everyone else is us. This is why when a person harms someone else, they are really harming themselves and causing or increasing suffering to themselves.
Our species often boasts about what it knows/what is has achieved/can achieve, but it seems to me that we know very, very little at all. I suspect there is a colossal amount of knowledge that we have yet to encounter. Perhaps this can happen when more people are able to access the majority of their brains that lie dormant, as depicted in Lucy (2014).
Making new friends is better done while in the company of another person, but…you’ve said that you have nobody to turn to in order to be that other person for you. I can imagine how awkward and frustrating that can be. So, if you’re going to make friends, you have to go out and do it, by yourself. That’ll feel close to impossible, but there are sometimes no choices…we beggars can’t be choosers. One of the benefits I found, in life, lies in people getting to know me long before they ever first met me. All other efforts were miserable failures. Figure out a way of getting folks to know you long before they meet you. A way will make itself known to you, but you must still do the hunting.