So there's this women I was in a complicated friendship/relationship and long story short she gave me mixed messages by saying she wanted to be with me then would say she didn't want to be with me for shallow reasons! She would go back in forth between these answers and just totally played me! Finally I couldn't take it anymore so I stopped talking to her! So every 6-8 months she'd contact me to see if I'd talk to her and I'd say no leave me alone! The last time I seen her in person was 2008! Now recently she has contacted me again but its different now cause I don't feel for her what I did before! I'm now in a committed loving relationship! My partner is not to keen on the idea of me talking to her but respects my decision and trusts me! My partner doesn't like her and the fact that we have a semi-romantic complicated history and hates the fact that she hurt me so bad! What should I do? I don't know why I feel the need to talk to her I just do! Besides the drama we had a really good friendship! I don't know if I'm just making up excuses or just lonely! Is there anyone out there that has been in my shoes on this topic and can tell me If I am wrong to talk to her or there option on this situation?????
jenny
it sounds like u have some unfinished issues to get out of the way hon regarding this woman, is the friedship u had with her worth salvaging or do u think this is just the beginning of another mind game session, sometimes we meet people who are corrosive to our well being although they do things for us visually, mentally physically, it just never seems to be an effortless relationship and to be honest high drama is a pain,
im more worried that u are lonely in a relationship whats going on there hon? why do u feel lonely?
mayb u need to explore the relationship u have before making any choices about this woman first
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)
My partner works a lot to help support her disabled parents! Her working all the time makes me worry about her cause she's not taking care of her own health! I don't have many friends and the ones I do have are a hour away! I'm alone a lot! We live in her parents house to help out with the bills! As soon as she gets home her dad pushes his responsibilities of taking care of his wife on her and so by the time she is done taking care of everybody else she is so tired that there's just no quality time for just me and her! She works three jobs and pays most of the bills! Its so hard on her that I don't want to make it any harder but I'm already depressed and am dealing with my own health and mental health issues! I've talked to her about some of this and she said we'd work on it together! As for the other women, I have no idea if she is gonna be drama or not! She says she's changed but in the end u never know! Thanks Domestic
hon
its always hard to see the woods for the trees sometimes, take a deep breath and see if u can ease your partners work load somewhere so u dont have to worry so much about her health, but at the same time concentrate on your own health just slow everything down and take it a day at a time, parents with young children survive this crazy lifestyle and im sure u both will
with regards the other woman i suggest u put it off till u can have established a better homelife and if u need to speak keep it to the computer whilst u see if she is going to be drama or really has changed
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)
Thank u domestic I appreciate u sharing ur knowledge! U have helped me a lot! Take care!
jenny
u take care of u and your partner too hon
wishing u all the best
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)