Anyone have advice for not losing my temper? I've had chroni

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Anyone have advice for not losing my temper? I've had chronic pain for over 5 years. I have hip dysplasia among other hip and back problems. I hate when I yell at people and get so frustrated because I'm in pain. How can I stop from taking out my pain and frustration on others? I feel bad when I do it, but I can't stop myself from doing it.

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Put a small stone in your shoe or carry it in your hand and squeeze it
,,It will distract you from your usual pain ,,and train yourself to recognize when you are about to be angry and practice saying a funny cuss word to your self when you feel that way ..Like "Frog Spit"

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Idk I have the same issue and when the pain has wore on me mentally all day I cant handle it or noise. I just want peace and quite but kids screaming playing husband wrestling and I yell ... when the kids run from me and im trying to get them dressed or clothed it makes my body tense up and I hurt more... the meds aren't working. .. I hate the body I live in

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@kwinn I completely understand where youre coming from. Living in pain everyday really takes a toll on you. When you feel yourself getting worked up, try to take a deep breath, and walk away giving yourself time to cool off so that you're not taking your anger out on others. It's not always easy, it takes time, patience, and practice. Hang in there.

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Thanks everyone! Great advice! I'll try and work on my anger issues! Might take some time, but I'll really try!!

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If you ever need someone to talk to who knows all to well what your dealing with....message me. I've dealt with chronic pain since I was a teenager....its really difficult. But I never let it change me....

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Thanks! I will definitely be messaging you when I have one of my really bad days lol. Which seems to be a pretty regular thing. I've even been wanting to quit my job lately (I nanny) and the family is great, but I don't want to start yelling at the kids because I can't handle my **** lol

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@kwinn, My pain makes me very angry and I do have issues with yelling at people. It's not easy, but I try to think that the people that love me are trying to help and that they feel helpless too. Embrace the good days.

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These are very good ideas. Thanks.

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I've used rubber bands for thoughts of hurting myself and for anger, put a rubber band on ur wrist and when u get angry snap it till u calm down, I used it for thought of hurting but it works good for anger too

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I would have to put rubber bands on my lips

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It redirects the pair to ur wrist

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I've GOT A BIGggggg mouth!! Rubber bands on my lips would help!. Good luck boxmaster.

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I Wish I had a big mouth and showed my anger as much. LOL .( but of course not with children) All my anger in life would not have turned into chronic pain and depression.
Technically, shouting out your anger reduces the feeling of pain :)

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@MariaB , You are right. Shouting out does reduce pain, but just make sure the person you are yelling at can take it and understand why you are yelling. If yelling helps you, I say yell away, LOL.

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I used to keep my pain and anger to myself. But I got to the point that I couldn't handle it. Its too much for myself. So I think is better to show your anger and your pain but wisely. I'm slowly learning to share my pain. Now I show my anger but I don't show the reason which I think is bad too.

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I have learned to try and walk away when I feel like I'm going to explode. I know lately it seems to be getting harder and harder. But I hate exploding and saying things I will regret.

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I totally agree with you. Count to ten and breathe. Regret is not a healthy emotion.

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This is something that I find myself struggling with a lot. I find that I get a lot more irritated with those I love a lot easier when I'm having a bad pain day. At this point, most of the time on days like that i'll warn my family and others ahead of time, so that they are aware that it's a rough day, and they're more understanding and compassionate as well. One thing that has really helped for me a lot is my breathing technique. I know it sounds really cliché, and no one wants to hear it... but taking deep breaths and just calming yourself down a bit helps a lot. I find that I'm able to close my eyes and breathe, and I snap a lot less at those I don't mean to snap at.

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@Becca_Marie.D I do warn my love ones too if I’m having a bad pain day. They seem to understand. Good job!