Anyone have custody of children where the other parent is out of state? How hard is it on the children to be separated for a months at time, versus the stress or going back and forth every other day.
Depends. Some get a custom to it some are capable of change with no interference. Depending on the parent and the structure given
Well my ex is making custody hell with being in the same state. I picked up my kid from daycare and he said "Daddy hates you" So I'm thinking that having the distance and not getting exposed to that kind of behavior every other day might be helpful for him. Plus he never knows who is picking him up or whose house he is staying with because it changes each week
@Fishgirl24 distance no explanation yes.let your child know you love him and want to be there and tell your man no negativity not good for the best interest of the child you both have to work this out…joint custody or visitation rights …distance can further your relationship with your child I was a child of that put my demeanor out of wak
This is what I am afraid of. He wants out of the marriage but he doesn't want me to have primary resident with our kids. They are still young but he thinks by equally splitting and having 2 places will make everyone happy. He said that, so I told him no one will be happy when a family breaks up. Ny kids also said to me..I guess daddy doesn't love you..and it broke me.....
@mamaoftwo yeah when my son said “Daddy hates you” my heart sank. I didn’t really hurt me personally because I’ve come to expect this kind of behavior from my ex. He’s constantly telling me what a horrible person I am, how I’m selfish and don’t care about the welfare of our child. Yet when we were together I was too over protective of our child and worried about him too much. I don’t know how I he could call me a helicopter mom, and then tell me I don’t care about our son’s welfare. I was a stay-at-home mom for three years. I put my career on hold because my family was more important. I just frustrated by it all and scared too. It’s very hard on the days I don’t have my child, but I don’t have any problems letting me know I love him and how much I miss him. I just am trying to decide if some distance will help the situation or make it worse. I guess I can suffer and spend the next 10 - 13 years being harassed and belittled by my ex and working in a dead end job, but I want so much to move not just for the job, but to be closer to family and friends. I don’t have any friends here and any time I started to make friends and establish some bonds my ex would move us.