anybody out there? new to this and dont know how it works yet...some help or a response would be greatly appreciated....thanx
I'm new here too - and don't know how much I can offer - but if you need to vent I'm here.
Hi,
Thanks so much for replying and trying to help. I guess we will figure this site out as we go along. It looks like there are many great people on here who want to help!! I saw on a post that you are on disability and home all day. I am as well and if you ever want or need someone to talk to I am here for you. Hope to hear from you again.
Have a great day,
Lily
You are both welcome to view my previous post. I've been a member for about 2 months. I'm learning as I go, but I'll share what I have learned helps me to judge what to say, what battles to pick on here, a persons' word written here and how much value to put into each individual.
For example, I post something about me. Someone makes a comment. I read their words and make my first opinion. If it makes good sense, it maybe is written well or explained well. You may determine you are interested in what that person has to say and want to know more about them. I click on their name and visit their profile. I go to their post and look at their very first few post. I want to see why they came here. The more post you read about a person, the more you learn how to take what they say. If their story is sketchy for some reason, read thei post and others comments. You'll find the people you listen to and the ones you take with a grain of salt. Just please be careful not to take things personally. I did, but fortunatly we work it out very easily and became friends.
Hope this helps any. If we run across each other in the same support groups and I can help, I'll be glad to try. Good Luck!
Thank you so much for all the words of kindness and info. I look forward to talking more with you.
Have a blessed day,
Lily
Liar2me - thank you for your support and guidance. I have a problem with taking things personally - I'm waaaaay too sensitive... but I'm working on that.
Well, you can read thru some of post and see where Trick and I had a misunderstanding of words. Turn out, we became support friends thru it all. Believe me, I know what you mean about taking it personal. Just put it out there and see how it goes. I'm beginning to get more out of this site. Keep writing...
I checked out your posts but had no idea which one contained the conversations with “Trick” - what is the post titled?
I new here too. My husband just recently left me for a another woman and left me to care for my elderly mother alone. We were married 18 years and Im heartbroken and feel so isolated. How do you unisolate yourself when your job is taking care of your homebound mom? I love her and I am the only suriving member of the family, so its all up to me! Any suggestions, Im feeling really down about now!
Hi Vicki and welcome. You sound like an amazing woman to take care of your mom! Your husband is the one who is losing here. I am so sorry you are feeling so heartbroken. If you want someone to talk to or just listen to you I am here for you. I suggest you keep yourself busy at a time like this it helps. Focus on the positives in your life and try to make some time for yourself. If you can, try to get out of the house some and be with others, friends, family, etc. If you isolate yourself to much you will feel worse. You made a great start by coming here and I am sure you will get a lot of support. I am very new here but already can tell the people here are very caring and supportive.
Take care of you,
Lily
I'm so sorry Vicki. You certainly have a lot that you're dealing with. I feel isolated in a different way. I'm home alone all day long every single day. I'm not able to work due to all of my mental health issues. I'm on disability and I feel so cut off from the world. I have to be honest in that I do have a husband that I love very much - so he comes home after work - but it doesn't take away the feeling of emptiness/loneliness that I feel.
You are such a loving, caring person to take care of your mom. I always promised my parents I would do the same for them when that day comes and I hope I can. As hard as it is that your (if you don't mind me saying) **** of a husband is for leaving you for someone else - you have your mother - AND all the wonderful people on this site - I've only been on for a short while but I've already come across so many amazing, supportive individuals.
If you need to vent you can always send me a message... I wish there was more I could do/say... ((HUGS))
Hey Lily,
Welcome. We are all here to support you if you need to discuss whatever is on your mind. How are you doing today?
xo, July
Hi July,
I am doing better thanks to all of you and your support!! It’s so nice to see that there are great people like you in the world. Hope you have a great day and I am here for you as well.
Love,
Lily