At the end of my rope life is getting too hard

Even though she said she wanted to work it out and stay together I caught the wife talking to this guy again. Now I'm sitting here dealing with the fact that my marriage is over. I'm hurting so bad. My stomach is a mess my chest hurts. I'm in tears I can't take this. I can't deal with this. It's all so overwhelming. I can't take this pain. I hate my life. She couldn't care what this is doing to me. or the kids it seems.

Very sorry to hear what you are going through. I've been through similar last year. The woman my man started getting close to wound up attending his father's funeral, which wound up feeling like a complete disrespect to me. And that's how I felt like he just didn't care how it made me feel. Partners should be more senisitive to our needs.

Yes they should. She told me she loves me but if she loved me this wouldn't be happening.

All I can say is that I know how you feel in so many ways. This divorce is tearing me apart to the point where I am finding it hard to function.

I feel your pain. And I wish you didn't have to deal with it. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

Im sorry. It prolly isnt that she doesnt care abt the kids or you. Mby she's in the place I got to. I love my children more than anything in the Universe and i still care abt my stbx but I had to start careing abt myself before I was gone forever. Id spent more than half my life careing for someone else and doing what they wanted and needed and living Their life. I had lost myself there was no Me anymore. I was depressed and deeply sad and barely alive. I tried everything to make it work. I couldnt get him to meet me even part way and I just couldnt stand to be unhappy anymore. It breaks my heart to have to split up my family but a happy alive me is better than a miserable suicidal maid.
I understand the pain your feeling and im so sorry you have to go through it. The support I get here has made all the difference in the world. I get advice, ideas, stories, support, sympathy etc and it helps SO MUCH so come here and talk were all here to help.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. :( I do think that you need to take control of your own life and decide is this what I want? Do I want her to make the decision about us? Especially when it involves this much pain? Absolutely not! You need to take control of your life and your kids.

You have my support, Hun.

Thank you very very much. It means a lot to me. I'm staying at a hotel for a few days to figure it out.

This may be a good idea?? Let me know what you come up with..

I understand what you are going through, I have been there, 3 times. I do know that it will get better for you, keep talking to people, it does help to get it out rather than hold it in. Try to remember who you were before you even met your wife, find that guy again, learn to love yourself and your children. Too many times we wrap ourselves around other people and forget who we are, so when they leave us, we are devestated, but think of this, we are not who they fell in love with because we changed, we lost ourselves in their identities, Just know this, there is someone who will love you for you, I know, I have been with my husband for 19 years now, but it took 4 times, lots of soul searching after the first abusive 3, and it happened when I least expected it, happiness, finally.

i am also sorry for your situation..i know hearing "ive been there" doesnt really help but we have..talking helps..venting helps..finding support groups of like minded people with similar situations helps too..the world is a small place now..everyone is so connected and yet it has made us more disconnected then eve before..find who you are what you want and live for your have to be strong for knocks you down and its important they see your strength and learn how to deal with did the right thing leaving..she will know your serious..and let her know how u feel..I have a problem with that myself so I know how hard it is and how easy it is to just say to someone..we are here for ya..stay God.

ashame we have people trying to sell crap in here...