Been off of here for a LONG time because of a certain user's treatment. Don't even remember his user name. But basically, he was completely unempathetic and would just kinda choose to attack my problems at random to make things worse for me not doing so harshly enough to get into trouble, and disguising it under the guise of "real talk" or "tough love." It was disheartening. I just hope he doesn't decide to pop up again out of nowhere with his self-absorbed rhetoric. Ugh.
Anyway, I've been super depressed because of the typical issues I face that I have no control over but that are psychological needs dependent upon others. Even since the last time I was on here, I've lost a LOT of faith and a LOT of hope. I feel like I'm just biding my time until I die as most of what I've lived means very little to very few but me. Been trying my best to be positive and promote positive change in my life. Still, almost nothing happens to follow those changes. And when it does, it's taken away almost immediately for no real reason. And that's why it's hard to hope or have faith.
Just figured I'd throw that out there and see who understands. I'm empathetic too and try to understand and be a good listener. Hope everyone has a great day and that we can promote less suffering and more understanding.
There are bullies online, as well as in our face to face encounters. You should not respond to them at all, since they feed off that. Don't give them anything, and they will move on. They may try to come back, but stand your ground. They cannot get any satisfaction from someone who refuses to deal with them.
I hope, this time, it will be different for you. Also, don't try to be positive. Trying too hard only makes the pain and suffering worse. Deal with what you are feeling, but in a different way: I've been turned on to meditation and it really does work...It is NOT hard at all!
You can do it. Empathetic people attract takers...vampires who will suck you dry. I am not telling you to be uncaring, but focus more of your attention onto yourself and make sure you protect and care for that person, as you would a dear friend or child.
@BWhite Thank you for some of those suggestions. They are good.
Not trying anything too hard. No offense. It's just not an issue.
I've meditated many times before, exercised, medicated, have hobbies, nothing works for how I feel but to cure its root issue. But I appreciate the suggestions.
Hmmm....well, I'm not sure how you'd go about fixing the root cause without developing more confidence, especially since we can't go back and fix the original trauma.
I hope someone comes up with some better ideas for you. If you care to explain your situation more, that would help, too.
@BWhite And most people act like I have forever. They throw platitudes my way that I’ve heard hundreds of times, but really don’t apply. Just trying to find some affection.
@BWhite My confidence isn't an issue either unless you consider my lack of faith as lack of confidence in good things happening. I miss receiving affection. It's been that way over 35 years altogether. And please don't confuse that with relying on someone for my happiness. I love myself. I like my freedom. I just MISS having some affection and love on occasion. For me it's VERY rare. I'm completely confident, but usually just get straight up ignored, straight up turned down, straight up stood up, or straight up ran around. And the few times it's happened, I've been burned. So most of my efforts have been wasted.
Then, those people weren't right for you. Nothing in life comes easy, and even making friends can be tough. However, your efforts are not wasted if you meet new people and try again. The only time it becomes nonproductive is when you keep trying with the one that rejects you.