Bit of a background. I'm 70 and my girlfriend is 39. She is pretty and I mention this because I know she could be with a lot of other men if she wanted to. She has stolen from me several times. And she is always asking for money. In spite of this I still love her and care for her. But I know I have to end the relationship. As much as I enjoy being with her, the stealing and lies are destroying me. I have 'ended' the relationship many times only for het to beg me to take her back. She says she wants a life with me and that I am the only one for her. I want to finally end the relationship with her but she is in the hospital. She has a lot of medical and mental problems. I know that if I don't take her back when she gets out of the hospital she will end up sleeping outside. I live near Chicago so the nights are getting cold. As I mentioned, I care about her very much (we have been together for over 3 years). I care about her too much to make her sleep in the cold but I know that if I take her back it will be the same old thing.
Hi @packfan! Sorry you're going through this situation in repeat. Have you tried to get help for her or for the both of you? Does she know that you are aware of the thefts? Tough situation. When we love we tend to want to look past things that we really wouldn't accept from other people. This is an especially difficult time of year to be going through this type of upheaval. What are your thoughts on counseling?
@Daexia - If you mean therapy, yes. She talks to a therapist twice a week and I talk to my therapist about once a month. Yes, she is aware that I know of the thefts. Either she denies or ignores it or she keeps saying it won’t happen again. I saw her yesterday, she returned my car and begged for money to pay the doctor. I said I would give her the money if she promised to never try to contact me again. Everyone keeps telling me to end the relationship so I’m having to deal with this by myself. I would like to also mention that this is the 1st relationship that I have been in for the past 30+ years.