I have finally come to the relaxation that after 34 years of marriage my wife has filed for divorce and moved all of her stuff out of the house. She is living with her sister now and wants to divorce quickly. I told her what is the hurry? I have by going and talking to others realized that she has not been happy sense her Retirment last year and a health scare in August. She cannot see that and says she doesn’t need to see anyone. Should I just take my time and let her think even if it takes a year or? This is killing me.
3 Hearts
I’m married and I can tell you this for free, this is best time she needs you the most , don’t stop loving her , get her flowers ,take her to any of her favorite restaurants to eat , the beach ,let her re connect with old friends ,family and more, let her know you can’t afford to lose her not at this moment . all she needs is re assurance with time she’s back to normal all women go through faded stage as they age up, it’s when they get hook up in a spot due to emotional breakdown, challenges and it stuck in their head they need us as men to flush that out of their mind. you do this and get back to me ok.
2 Hearts
I am giving her all the time she needs to make a decision and figure out what I did wrong. We have talked about a bunch of problems she has but I told her none of those problems are worth tossing out 34 years of marriage. she has finally agreed to see a counselor and a marriage counselor after if they think it is what we need to do. I think it will help but the big problem was getting her to agree. She finally has and I am happier.
1 Heart
It’s natural to want closure or reconciliation, but it’s also important to acknowledge that sometimes relationships evolve to a point where moving on is the best path for both people. You deserve peace, too and that involves accepting the situation no matter how hard that is.