Can I ask all the boys out there a question? When a girl dumps you or uses you do you think feel the same why as we would if we were in the same situation? I am not trying to make anyone mad Its just sometime I feel guys don't feel the same depth women or girls do( all the fact that I cried last night listening to "if I were a boy" on repeat).
1 Heart
Not a boy but men def feel emotion as deep as we do, crazy that they are humans too right? I think men just dont show as much as women bc our world says its bad to show emotion (unless youre a girl) bc showing it makes you less "of a man" and its "wrong" to be sensitive and all that, thats why gay men are sometimes more sweet and sensitive, or at least show it more, because someone decided its ok for them to show it, great song but i like the ciara more ngl
2 Hearts
@nicekiwi well i like it when guys show emotion.
Not a guy, but they do feel emotions too, sometimes even more than we do. It's just that society tells them that they will be seen as weak if they show their emotions so they've learned to hide it and not tell anyone about what they are feeling.
1 Heart
@cupcake520 Well i think they should more
Well, one thing to remember is that everyone is different. So some do and some don't.
1 Heart
@Jordan5683 true
my point of view. i share my emotions, it is not always easy,sometimes i have to take time to process them. When i feel rushed to share them, i tend to just say things are OK. I feel tha tis because sharing my feelings and emotions, are something i had to learn and teach myself. It was nothing that was common n my house and I was not raised to share them.
2 Hearts
@Griz75 i can relate
Us guys feel things just as keenly as women do. The difference is that the average guy processes their emotions differently than the average woman. Guys have also got a massive societal pressure within their social groups to just "suck it up, buttercup". Probably what helps contribute to the suicide rate in men being something like just under 4 times the rate of women according to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. There's still a massive stigma against men showing emotion or even implying that we don't in fact, have it all together. I've seen it play out in person before where a guy that dared reach out to acquaintances was told to stop being a sissy and get over it. Sadly, I don't see that stigma going anywhere fast, with the current state of modern life.
2 Hearts
@Brent1228 That’s so sad i really think that should change. Thanks for the info
I had to end a 6.5 year online friendship, with a female this year, I am better for it.
It was getting bad.
We tried to work it out.
She met a guy who was her bf, but her bf is a bit of a control freak, and has anger issues, but anyways he tells me I will say who is friends with my girl and who is not.
The girl I was just friends with when along with the bf, cast me aside,like I am choped meat or something.
It hurt, but I did the right thing.
Now, I have someone else at sg as a female friend and I might have another female friend here as well.
So things are looking brighter for me everyday, that I am at sg.
Plus i get to help and support both of them, and the rest of the members here at sg.
I love this sight.
I am so over the other online friend.
@godlovesus hugs and support for you. I am here for you. I too had a very toxic online relationship. It hard to talk about though. I will just say I could have gotten myself killed.
As a guy, I would say that not everyone is the same, such as all guys think like this or that, I would never make that kind of comment. I would say that I am closer to girls than I am to guys as friends because of the reason you spoke of. I think that personally I am self aware and able to speak into my own problems and feelings in depth but at the same time there are lots of girls that are not on the same page either. I wish I had male friends that could relate better because sometimes it seems like there is a stigmatism surrounding being in touch with your feelings and able to express yourself. I like people who are able to do that too. If that is the kind of person you want in your life , there are some out there, you just have to keep looking. I say, don't settle for what is convenient. In the long run you really want to be with your best friend if you are going to spend the rest of your life with them and be content and feel completely loved.
1 Heart
@CanUSeeTheRealMe Thank you for the truth. That’s all I really ask for