I feel selfish by asking for help in a sexual abuse category when I wasn't the one who had anything physically done to them, but I'm hoping I can get pointed in a direction. To make a long, complicated story short, this is my first year in college, and my parents and boyfriend helped me moved in on a Sunday this past August, and the following Wednesday I got the worst phone call from my best friend. The previous night, my boyfriend had gotten into a fender bender and was really upset about it (he's a year younger and didn't have his license and had previously been in quite a few bad car accidents and has developed emotional stress from the accidents) and decided to excessively drink (something he's never done because his father is an alcoholic). That night he went to her house to vent to her about it (venting is not uncommon between them but neither of them ever had any special feelings besides freindship for the other) and ended up sleeping over (he's slept there before...nothing ever happened). The part of the phone call that made me want to jump out my dorm window, was when she said she woke up in the night only to find him touching her breasts and masterbating. Her and I have been each other's best support, but I wish I had someone to talk to who knows what it's like to have a boyfriend do something like this. More than anything I just want to stop crying and feeling so weak and worthless everytime I think about that phone call.
...And no, I didn't stay with him. She always was more important to me than him, after her phone call, I called him immediately after and told him that's it, "we're over". I don't want to get back together with him. I just want to stop feeling pathetic.