I can't take it anymore. Last night my husband had the night off from work. I so just wanted to hang out like old times. All he wanted to do was talk about work. I listened for a little while. I tried just talking about some "me" stuff..my family, my work, etc. He just said uh huh and moved on to him again. I don't know what to do. He was still overtired but seriously I can't deal with it. I just want to stand up and kick him out, but at the same time I don't either. I want my life back the way it used to be. I went to see a new therapist today and she recommended I go for medication, except now I need a med eval and the earliest appointment was 4/7...so far away :(
I think that it's so good that you went to see a new therapist today, because I feel that she will give you guidance and help you through this. As well, I understand your frustration about the med eval appointment being further away, but it will be here in no time. How often are you seeing you therapist and did you like her?
I know what ya mean, it’s always him, him, him.
Right now I don't have an appointment with her for another 2 weeks :( things are so hard right now.
I am so sorry to hear that. Please vent and share here; we are here to help you through this as best as possible.
I continue to have good days and bad days with my marriage. Just when I think its going ok...boom! Today I thought was an ok day...my husband actually texted me saying when he would be home and asked what I wanted to do about dinner. I made a suggestion...offered to cook and then he comes home, decides he has to run out for a bit and he wil grab dinner on his way back. It has been over 1.5 hours since he left, the errand was about 15 minutes away. I am starving! And not to mentioned annoyed. Before he left, he mentioned how he is most likely moving out and doesn't feel he can give me another chance at showing him I have changed with my depression. Everyone can see it BUT him. It makes me depressed even to imagine life without him. I don't know what to do. Part of me is ready to kick him to the curb tonight, but I don't know if I am ready for that..I never have been and don't know if its what I want....to say I want a divorce :(
I am so sorry for how your night turned out, I really hope that your husband comes home and makes it up to you. You are such a wonderful person to cook for him and wait for him to come back. And, I totally understand your frustration with your marriage overall, because it seems to be in limbo in the moment. And, a nor here nor there scenario can be quite frustrating. Do you think that a separation can be helpful in order to see if you two should move forward with your marriage? I know that you don't want a divorce, but I also think that you really deserve to be with someone who believes in your and your progress. Maybe with a bit of distance he will see this. The other option is to have a talk and see if he would like to work on the marriage together. Express to him how much you love him and how you would like to make it work. Is this a possibility?
Well he came home last night...2 hours after he had gone out. I was annoyed. We ended up getting into a huge fight, over just about everything and anything we could think of. I was VERY angry and I took off my wedding rings...he took them and said I wouldn't be getting them back. I am completely crushed although part of me felt it coming. I don't want to be without him, I don't want to be divorced, but I don't know if I can keep living like this either.
Why is he acting like that? Does he want a divorce?
yes :( i believe so
How long have you been married?
a little over a year and a half...been together 6
Have you tried talking to him without arguing? Your relationship sounds a lot like mine did. We fought all the time and argued over everything. I started seing a therapist to but it cost me to much money to continue with her. Maybe a sepertion would do you both some good, I dont know. But keep going to your therapist and she will be able to help you sort through it all. Just take one day at a time.
There are times we don't argue, but then one of us says something stupid that we didn't mean and the other takes it personally and things go from there. We never used to argue, or at least not like this. Sure we had disagreements, who doesn't....but it was never like this. I don't know about the separation. I personally feel like we have been separated for a while since we never see each other even though we were living under the same roof.
Hello there! I am so sorry about your argument last night, that's awful. I don't think that you deserve this and should really consider moving on if he is not willing to work on this with you. I think that it's important to try everything to make a relationship work, but it takes two to make that happen. If he's not willing to work on this with you, then it may be time to move on. I know that this is so difficult for you, please know that we are here for you.