How do I let go of the man I've spent the last 12 years of my life with? How do I stop crying because I know that splitting up is best for all of us? How do I stop blaming myself and start to move on? I'm so lost and sad and confused. I'm terrified of the thought of living without him, but I can't stomach knowing he is out with someone else. My heart hurts so bad.
Hi Lost and lonely..., Welcome to SupportGroups.com . I am so very sorry for what you are going through. I know how much it hurts. Now you wish to take action but how? You can do it one day at a time by taking teeny, tiny baby steps. I know it won't be easy but we are all here for you to support you through this. Is there someone you can also talk face to face with about what is going on? Gather up your support network around you now. Keep sharing and letting us know how you are doing. We are here for you. ((((hugs))))
Thank you Bluidkiti! I have some family and a couple of friends that would listen but would also voice their opinions of him and I'm not willing to hear any negativity about him because he really is a wonderful person. I know it's going to take time but the hurt is almost dibilitating. I just want some resolution now, but I know we just have to take it day by day. We have a 7 year old and only want to do what's best for him. Obviously having him seeing me hurting isn't good for him but I suck as an actress. I still have no idea how we are going to tell him. So many conflicting emotions! I feel myself sinking into depression but know that I can't sit here and wallow. I know I have to get out and meet new people but I am so incredibly shy and socially retarded :)
So ya’ll have decided that divorce is the answer? Is he willing to try and work it out? Marriage counseling? I do hope that each day gets better for you. You will be in my prayers.
We never officially married so at least we don't have that ugly mess to deal with. For quite a few years I was always angry at him (for no particular reason) and threatened several times to leave. And each time I would break down and tell him I didn't want to leave but that things needed to change. Of course nothing ever did, until the other woman came into to picture. But don't get me wrong, there was never any cheating or lying involved. Part of me is grateful for her, part of me is outrageously jealous and part of me blames myself for encouraging him to spend time with her. It is a rediculously convoluted situation that I feel like I brought on myself. I think we are beyond counseling (except personal counseling for myself) and deep down I know that going our seperate ways will be for the best in the end but knowing doesn't stop the incredible hurt I feel.
I do hope that things get better for you. I am here if you ever need to talk. You will be in my prayers...just remember to take it day by day.
Thank you!! So far this is helping quite a bit. Just knowing that there are other people out there going through similar issues and surviving.