So I was sharing in another thread about how over the summer I have been asking my husband to take a few days off from work so we can go to the beach together alone for a few days. Each time his response has been he can't take any time off from work right now because he is busy. He does have plenty of vacation time he can use. Saturday he was talking to his mother about her upcoming birthday on August 22. He asked if she would like to go to the beach for a day or so next week. Hello??? What the heck? He can't take time off for him and me to go but he can to go do something with his mother? Plus all he gave me for my birthday was a card?? Yeah, I am a little bit upset over this and told him so - like it matters. I am working through it to get over it. Plus, I have to ride in the backseat the whole way which will be for a few hours. This is not what I had in mind at all. We will be going on Wednesday. I am now just trying to make it through the week.
I would suggest you talk to your husband but not in a manner that will put him on guard(i know it makes you angry that he doesn't spare time for you too but he has got time for other people...just don't lose your temper)make the discussion comfortable so that he too can open up to you without creating barriers,then tell him how you really feel.
Hi Star84, Welcome to SupportGroups.com . Thank you for your suggestions. I have already told him how I feel. Like it matters. I am just working on keeping my side of the street clean. My feelings have reflected to my outsides. Mainly feelings of hurt and being sad right now. He did tell me he was taking some time in September. Oh but that is during the time his sister and her husband will be visiting.
I understand where you are coming from. I know what it's like to always feel like you are on the back burner. And you have every right to be upset. He is missing out on a great time just the 2 of you. Let him know that ;)!
Thanks Mommyx3. I have actually worked through all of that. I am feeling better. We did make the trip with his mom to see The Lost Colony. The show wound up being canceled because of rain. My husband and I did walk on the beach for a little bit but it started raining. I did actually have a good time.
I think though I may suggest to my husband that he and I make a trip for a few days alone for our next anniversary which will be our 25th one. That will be in April, 2011. So he has plenty of time to plan for it and put in leave for it. ;)