My husband just told me that it is my fault that he is so depressed. He has dementia, has had open heart surgery, anxiety and depression. I know that it is not my fault but after i hear it all of the time it gets to me. I have had different stages of depression and anxiety myself but i have stuck by him through 24 yrs. I beleive in God and know that Jesus died on the cross for me. when i die i am going to be with him and my mother. He isnot saved. his moods change so fast that it is like living with 2 people. I would like to just say hell with it but there are so many issues and other people involved. I wish there was a way to find out what causes it all. Is it his depression, dementia, anxiety or is he just his plain old hateful self. sometimnes i wonder that it maybe is a lot of my fault because i know that i am not the easiest person to live with. I have issues of my own but try to help everyone else.
You're right. It's not your fault. But try to be as understanding as possible and ask him about why he says that it is your fault. Have you tried talking to him about his beliefs? And try to invite him into Christianity? I'm pretty sure you would have already dont that though. Try talking to his doctor about it, maybe he can help.
He sounds like my husband , soon to be ex husband . Nothing was ever his fault . Anything he did wrong was my or someone elses fault . It used to hurt until I realized he was just , as you put it , hateful . I know how you feel but just remember that depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain and theres no way you can cause that . LOL . Yes I know theres more to depression than just the chemical imbalance but its a big part of it . And some people simply cannot take responsibility for their own problems . Your husband sounds like one of those people . Plus the dementia Im sure has alot to do with it . Good luck to you and God bless .