I was recently out of town and had more alone time than I have had in a while. This time really was a gift and it gave me time to really think about my life and most especially the way that I am living it. There are several friendships that have gone by the wayside and one of them is very important to me. So, I realized that I want to mend that friendship and by doing so I would live with no regrets. Then I started to apply this to other facets of my life, and it really changed my thinking. If you can start to think of a life of no regrets, it may change the way you look at your day-to-day life, as well as your life in the bigger picture.
From simple things such as "if I don't go for that run today, I will regret it" to "if I don't work to mend this friendship, I will regret it".
I want to live a life of NO REGRETS and I am applying this to all facets of my life. This life is so precious and so beautiful, know that regardless of circumstance, you can work to improve your life slowly but surely. This is something that is helping me now and I thought to share it with you.
Thank you puppydoglvr....what nice thoughts you have and such great advice. I do try to make good choices in my life now because I have obviously been off kilter and definitely had no barometer when it came to choosing who was actually good for me, who I should allow in my life, and was a true friend. I do apologize to people when I get snippy because I'm stressed and I do want to live my life with no regrets too. I will forever remember what I just read....so incredibly positive and what you wrote I'm sure will help a lot of people who are here for help and understanding just like I am. Thank you again! Sunshine!
This is a very healing way to look at things. We can't change the past, but we do have contol over today and each day forward. Thank you for sharing your wisdom....Jan ♥
Hey Puppy,
I love the way you are using this to reach out to people that you have lost contact with. Friendships are so important and so invaluable. Thank you, I feel I will have to apply this to my single life and start to put myself out there.
You're welcome puppydoglvr! You're SO right, I'm really, really careful now about who I allow close to me. Isn't it shocking how much more trusting of people we use to be? I'm a huge people person, and I always like everyone, could only see the good in them, but lots of times the more I would get to know someone I figured out they weren't the type of person I thought they were. I'll never forget when I was really pretty young, I made a list of every single friend and family member, listed out the pros and cons of each of them, and then I eliminated the people who used me, weren't there for me yet I was always there for them, had betrayed me and I never had betrayed them...you get the picture 8-) Needless to say, I whittled down the list and kept ALL the people in my life that could also give and not only take. It may sound like a weird thing to do, but it was actually very therapeutic to do and to remove the people from my life that were not good for me one little bit! Thanks puppydoglvr and I hope you have a wonderful Easter holiday!!!! Sunshine!
Hi Puppy.....thank you for being a constant on many of the sites here. I love your positive attitude and the way you continuously support others. I am wondering what you do to soothe yourself, to give to yourself? You seem to be on the site pretty much all the time. I would love to know more about you if you are comfortable with that....do you work? Do you have a family? What are your long term goals in life? Do you have people in the 'here and now' in your life, outside of the 'virtual' community?
What do YOU need? I hope you will share more about YOU with us...take care...Jan ♥
That is a great way to look at life! I have always tried to live the same way. When things go "bad" it is better to know that you did everything possible so that you do not regret anything. My family has always been really bad at holding a grudge and I have tried to explain to them that they are only hurting themselves because chances are the other person is not worrying about it.
You sure did hit the nail on the head! One of my brothers is the biggest grudge holders I’ve ever known in my whole life! I’ve had him hold a grudge against me (along with lots of other people) for almost two years at a time, and I think, okay, now I’m use to it from him, so in the end it stops bothering me and I think he’s the only one bugged by it after THAT long! Life is too short to hold grudges for that long…there have been lots of times I’m so mad I feel like I’ll explode into a million pieces, but I do finally realize the only person it’s hurting is me because no one else cares…just a big waste of my time. That’s not to say I don’t still get angry about certain things, I do, but I try real hard to shove them out of my head…sometimes I succeed at being able to, and sometimes I get “stuck”…I guess it’s all a big long process! Sunshine!
Thank you all so much for your wonderful comments, they truly filled my heart and soul. And, I very much appreciate your interest in me personally, that makes me feel very special.
A bit about me; I am single and don't have any children, I live alone and work from home. I have family nearby, as well as some good friends, though everyone very much has a life of their own so we get together when we can. This site has truly been my saving grace. I initially came here because I was dealing with depression stemming primarily from loneliness, as well as stress, anxiety, and panic attacks. I used to work in a corporate environment years ago, but ever since I've been working from home, I feel incredibly lonely. And, there are numerous other areas that I can relate to because of direct experience, such as bulimia. This site truly fulfills me and there is nothing that makes me happier than to help people. In my time here, I feel that I've started supporting people across all groups, because I believe that everyone just wants to be heard and supported. Even if I don't have direct experience in an area, I would like to reach out and give a virtual hug to as many people as possible. In a way, I believe that this Site has truly filled a big missing piece in my life and for that I am ever so grateful. I am grateful to each and everyone of you for all that you have done for me. I appreciate each and every moment that I have here with all of you. Thank you!
Wishing each and every one of you a beautiful day filled with smiles and laughter :-)
Puppy, I am sending you a great big cyber hug, the kind that make you know that someone really cares!! I think I speak for many when I say that, puppydoglvr IS supportgroups.com!
You need to promise us though, that when you are feeling down or need a hug, that you will tell us because I know SOOOO many people want to be there for you, like you've been there for them!
Thank you again, for teaching us all so much about reaching out to others and being completely selfless in your support for all who come here!
Suzee, oh my goodness, your comment brought happy tears to my eyes and truly made me feel your hug. I felt as if you were really hugging me as I read your comment, because it was so warm and heartfelt. And, it is such a huge compliment and I can't thank you enough for how truly special that you have made me feel. As well, thank you for being here for me and I promise to share anytime I need your love and support. You are absolutely amazing and such a blessing to all of us here. By the way, happy tears are still flowing. Thank you!
What a positive outlook. It sounds wonderful and inspiring and I hope to be able to bring each day a little closer to that wonderful goal! Thanks for sharing!