My boyfriend and I had a good day together today. We didn't do much but hang out in our room watching some tv and played MLB 10.
And of course now that the baseball game is about to start, he's out the door to the bar.
I can't help but be jealous. He doesn't take me with him and sometimes it kinda hurts. I know it's his guy time, but some days, like today, it doesn't seem fair.
Then my imagination begins to wander. Am I that much of a bore or a ***** that he never takes me with him? What is so wrong with me that our life now consists of me seeing him only in our bedroom when he's not at work or out watching the game? We are lucky to go out anywhere once a month. And we live together.
Am I really being childish and selfish? Please help.
I know this was a couple of months ago, relationships do get into a comfort zone/relaxed & its a good thing just knowing that hes there w/you even if its in bed or watching the game at least thats reliable. You can always spice things up a bit by planning date nights that may or may not pan out well. My husband once said to me "I shouldnt have to do that with my wife", I thought WTF....thanks for not wanting to treat me special ****, guess how our relationship is, dosent take a brain surgeon..........UGH....some get it some dont.
I dont think its asking too much to be included in such events with your boyfriend...maybe while hes having 'boys time' you should round up your girlfriends for 'girls time'.
Relationships do better when each person also has time doing something not as a couple. Find something that you want to do with others and schedule time to do that. If you want to watch the game at the bar with him let him know that. Maybe you could arrange that certain nights he can go to watch one with the guys but on other nights you do it as a couple. The key is communicate what you want while making sure you each have the space you need to keep the relationship strong.
Krazy, good advice, I'm married 19yrs. now & have my own interests/activities & have done all you've mentioned through out the years to no avail, am looking into other alternatives now.... So there you go Beauty trying some of thoses tips would be wise & excuse me if I opened a can of worms.
Hi all. Thanks for the advice. Well he has a new job now and knows he has to get up early so the "every night out" has stopped. He goes out Fri & Sat nights now.
Like tonight, he went out at 7 and I don't expect him home before 3am. I stayed home and did my crafts. It's very hard for me to not call him, but I am trying not to. I notice he misses me more when I don't. :)