What we call crises do happen, but they are usually short lived (although usually intense) and they are different to the suffering that almost everyone experiences, on a continuous/ever present way. Almost everyone suffers (and has historically suffered) because of what are considered “everyday life” things. These things are all thoughts (non-functional ones), none of which exist in reality. They only exist in the mind, where they are created/harbored.
All of the following are imaginary/unreal things and they lead to or increase suffering;
Belief and believing, opinions, comparison, judgement, critiquing, ideas, concepts, goals, imagination, fantasy, expectations, assumptions, meaning, purpose, control & power, desire, arguing, frustration, anger, fear, worry, anxiety, winning, losing, value, worth, having/not having, the past, the future and others.
Importantly, the artificial human-only world that humans have created is entirely made up of the above, and other imaginary things.
All of these things are optional things, things which are not necessary for life but which are what almost everyone chooses to engage with, pretty much all the time. Its not really most people’s fault that they engage with these imaginary things, because almost everyone is raised more or less the same way, and they see how everyone else behaves/lives and so they all behave in the same/similar way during our lives.
The real world and the imagined world are two separate worlds, but our species has chosen to merge these worlds together and also, to give them both equal status, when they do not have equal status.
Its only when you realise what is going on in the mind that you can see how suffering happens. This realisation often comes about when a person’s suffering has become bad enough to become an impediment to life enjoyment (until that point, people won’t see it as a problem or enough of a problem). This may then propel a person to seek help and that search may lead them to the awareness of what causes suffering, which is how I came to this knowledge. It is possible for anyone to do the same, if they really want to end their suffering. I have found that there are people who prefer to carry on suffering rather than pursuing the ending of it. And only the sufferer can end their own suffering, although other people can help/provide resources.
A positive outlook on life is often spoken of as a better way/good way at looking at life and all that happens in life. But in reality, a positive outlook causes suffering, because to label something/some way as positive you have to define other ways/things as not positive. Much like being a good person means you judge other people not to be good and this way of thinking can be applied to many things. Thus, comparison leads to judgement and judgement leads to criticism and the labeling/categorizing/pigeon-holing people/groups of people in all kinds of ways, something we have seen throughout human history.
You will search, in vain, to find purpose because it does not exist, anywhere. Some people may think they have found their purpose when something “seems to fit” for them, but it’s just a mind trick that their mind is playing on them. There is nothing specific “in store for you”, or for anyone else. We are all born neutral, without limitations (except that of our biology) and yet we slowly begin to set definitions, labels, limitations on ourselves and we let others do the same.
This doesn’t mean that one day you can’t say “I would like to be a teacher” and then go off and pursue that. It just means you don’t have to only do that, and if teaching doesn’t work out, you can stop and do something else. If you eat a food for the first time and find that you don’t like it, do you keep eating it? No, nobody does. Thus, it is the same with all other choices - we can choose from an almost unlimited number of things and we can also change out choices, any time. In fact, almost everyone makes thousands of choices every day but most of them people are unaware of.
On the subject of dark femininity, I did not talk of it in any particular way (neither good nor bad, nor in any other way), but your response says that I spoke of it in a “bad way” . This is a term that I don’t really know what people mean when they use unclear terms and “dark femininity” is certainly an unclear term. I would think someone would get several different definitions from people if 10-20 people were asked for their definition of that term, but none of which would be right or wrong, because it is term based on opinion and not fact.
With you detailing your definition of dark femininity, it is clear what you mean. I would only comment that we have no actual worth or value and we don’t actually matter, at all. Ego/self-image is a destructive and corrosive mental entity that should not be encouraged for people to have as it is a major source of suffering, as is constantly feeding it and reinforcing it.
You and everybody else would not need courage if you did not have irrational fears and we are taught irrational fear from a very early age and it is repeatedly and constantly delivered to us by others throughout our lives. If we did not have irrational fear, others could sense it in us and perhaps conflict would probably not occur. Due to the nature of the mind and the immense unknowns in it, we cannot stop all conflict and violence. We are hundreds, perhaps thousands of years away from understanding the mind and only once we understand it and understand it fully, can any choices be made as to what we should do.
