I have tried online dating for very short periods of time, several times over the course of the past few years. Every time I have a bad experience, it scares me straight. From talking to a guy for 11 days [morning, noon, and night] and then meeting him in person and everything falling flat (there was absolutely no chemistry whatsoever) to going out with a guy who made up a fictitious life. Those are just two examples.
I now have one girlfriend who is engaged and met her fiance on eharmony and then two other girlfriends who are in serious relationships as a result of match.com. I am getting more encouraged to try online dating again.
I am just a very traditional girl for the most part and always thought I would run into my Mr. Right at the grocery store or meet him at an event/party. But, maybe my endless hours of work are pushing me to online date.
Does anyone have any experience with online dating; good or bad? And, any suggestions whether to give it a go or stick with the traditional way of meeting a man.
Yeah i'm traditional too and well as we want things to happen like they do in the movies its not all what's its cracked up to be. Plus we have to enjoy life and engage ourselves being out there. For every frog there is a prince somewhere. Try online dating I did and have had success and misery but now i am older and know if i am with a frog not to waste my time after the first date etc. Try those sites and see what you get. There is also this other site which i think is awesome because it helps you to form friendships out of interests and you also meet a ton of cool new people. ITs called www.meetup.com check it out its free and there are a ton of different interest groups and forums you can follow. Just have fun!!
Hey,
i had a good deal of success...sure haven't met my prince...YET:)...but soon. I say go for it. And there is a site plentyoffish.com and it's free so NO paying...yay! Finally something economy friendly.
I do understand the constant emailing and then if it doesn't work out, it's kind of like "boy what a waste of time"...but maybe if you set the tone for amount of emailing required, obviously email more as time approaches for the date...and hopefully after that you never know...
Been on Plenty o fish and Match. Zero sucess w/ either. Atleast POF is free.
People lie worse than in a bar on those sites. I put up a recent pic, totally honest in my description…nothing.People judge you just like in real life - all on appearance. I’m not attractive and take an even worse pic…
Yeah i agree with Moongal, I will try that sight you mentioned. Funny name for it though. There is another funny one that I belong to called meatmarket.com Yeah i know but its for people who like thrills and outdoors. i have yet to go to an event but i get loads of there activities and alot of it seems fun. plus they have meet and greets at bars and some restaurants from time to time. Anyway have fun though:p
Thank you so much ClimbButterfly-pea and Moongal for the fantastic advice and site suggestions. I am definitely going to give both of them a try. I am more, more and more convinced that online dating is good to do along with more traditional ways of meeting men. I am now seeing and hearing of so many great success stories from online dating. One of my girlfriends updated me on her online dating experiences over the weekend and she finally met an amazing guy after a few lackluster dates. She's now in a serious and very happy relationship.
Thank you both again! I am wishing you both all of the very best and sending you lots of positive energy.
if you must okcupid.com is free and had emails and IMs free too so there is no paying at all like others that say "free" but in order to see messages you have to pay which kind of defeats the whole "free" thing lol but I had no luck but perhaps you will. I am after all in a different location lol maybe the ones in you area will be better. but beware of liars, fakers, married men, and manipulators o_O Good Luck!
I'm no longer dating online, nor will I do it again. I am back to traditional dating. This takes much more effort in terms of going out to events and meeting new people, but much more my comfort level. I gave it a go, but it just wasn't for me in the end.
Well it’s always important to do what makes YOU feel comfortable. You already tried it so there’s no “what if” and since you didn’t like it I think it’s best you do something you like more. If you do online dating you might go in with fear or repeating past mistakes, from what I read on your posts you seemed really unsure and weary of it because of what happened with another guy. You seem to prefer traditional dates so I say go with that. Some people like the internet because they don’t like the pressure of meeting new people in person or are socially anxious but the internet is not for everyone. plus I’m not sure what age you’re looking to date but usually there are a lot of really young people on the internet but usually guys that would be around your age might be more traditional and not do online dates. The ones online are the ones that can’t get a date in person or are just looking for sex. I’m sure there might be some good ones online but there are more creepers and frogs than there are princes =/ it sucks but that’s just how it is. I hope you find love soon or rather I hope it finds you Cupids bow will strike you sooner than you think =) I’m praying I have a valentine this year I never have a real one =/ You’ll have 2 lol and why are you looking for online dating. you seem to have no problem meeting guys. what happened with the two guys you said were nice and you were chatting with?
To those who posted on this thanks for the sites to visit. Always good to check out the ones that are actually free. Puppydog you gave it a shot and online dating is not for everyone. I for one have tried with terrible results and gf's are not the easiest to meet online or otherwise unless (it seems) you are a bar fly. I am so old fashioned traditional dater it is almost laughable. I keep looking online and find so many I want to get to know as friends, lovers, etc BUT what stops me from typing is...trust.
yes I completely agree. I had the same trust issue. Guys lied A LOT! and I mean it’s pretty easy to look at a profile and read what the person likes, research it and pretend you like it also and just write about it. someone might seem nice on paper and in a picture but when you meet them you’re shocked at what you find because your perception of that person was completely different. I met a guy who turned out to be kinda racist (though he was of my same nationality so not necessarily towards me but just other people). Like it’s one thing to kid around but he seemed pretty serious and that was a turn off (amongst many other things). I actually prefer to date outside of my nationality for many reasons but he seemed nice and was Americanized and seemed to like same things as me but I met him and he was NOT as tall as he claimed and the picture was not of him and if it was it was at least like 10 years old. Already a bad start because I felt disrespected and lied to. I hate being lied to. I was completely honest on profile and pics because I don’t want to lie to anyone but people lie so much. And basically a lot of people don’t READ profiles they look at pics and that’s it. So people would look at my pics and think ohh she’s good looking I’ll send her a message about sex and blablala when on my profile it specifically said DON’T contact me if that’s all your after. and some that read it but were not what I wanted just pretended to be. I feel dating someone in person is better because it’s harder for them to lie about who they are. They can’t pretend to be what you want if they don’t know what it is you want yet…I’m pretty traditional even though I’m young. It’s just how I was raised but I was lonely and decided to try it. But now I know why people advised me against it. I wish there were more honest people out there!!! and also less shallow people! I wish people could read about who I am and like my personality and send me messages because they like what they read instead of because they like what they saw =/
Hoopsmaster, two of my girlfriends have both started dating online again and they are trying to get me to do it with them. I am really really really on the fence about this. They say that we are not out enough to meet nice new people and we need to put ourselves out there as much as possible, regardless of how we end up meeting the guy. I totally understand your trust issue regarding online dating, but maybe it's worth giving it a shot and taking it super slowly with someone at first, until you really get to know someone. That's my plan of action. I plan to take things super slowly, and won't commit to a relationship with someone until I know them at the friendship level first.
Cupids bow will strike you sooner than you think =) I’m praying I have a valentine this year 
I never have a real one =/ You’ll have 2 lol and why are you looking for online dating. you seem to have no problem meeting guys. what happened with the two guys you said were nice and you were chatting with?