Contrast

It's Saturday, and after a CRAZY week, I am luxuriating on the sofa in pajamas with an english muffin and my computer. I'm warm under a quilt, and feeling quite content at the moment. :)

One year ago, things were quite different for me... Fears of a repeat have followed my movements recently as a ghost would shadow a soul.

LAST year, at our faculty Christmas party, I was humiliated to have my eating disorder on display to coworkers... I felt trapped and terrified, and if I could have jumped right out of my skin, I would have! I was provided with a vegetarian lunch item (which terrified me!), was made to feel GUILTY about receiving a "special" meal, and was warned that the favor would not be repeated the following year... I couldn't eat. I quietly threw out my plate, only to discover my teaching team watching me with grave concern... It was a nightmare!! :0/

I'm in a different place today... I'm stronger. More confident. And a kind coworker made sure that one of the food choices was vegetarian. And a safer one at that. ♥ I felt the fears that followed me from my previous experience, and I couldn't help but sit in that room with memories of 2009 floating through my head... But my experience this year was totally different. :)

This year, I ate. I ate with mindfulness, and a careful ear tuned to my satiety cues. I did not know the calorie count. I was okay. ♥ I even enjoyed a sampler-plate of desserts!! ♥ I was comfortable. I laughed with my coworkers. I enjoyed myself. :) As we were walking back down the hall together afterwards, one coworker turned to another and asked, "Isn't it nice to hear Jen saying what she thinks?" This was answered with, "I hardly recognize her from two years ago! It's wonderful!" (Smile!! ♥)

I opted to stay at school and work in my classroom until 7:00 last night... This is unheard of on a day when we're allowed to leave at 2:00! LOL! But, I made a choice... I stayed and completed my work, and then left it at school! I walked away with a clear conscience, ready to enjoy my two weeks of vacation!!! ♥ I headed home, stopped to pick up dinner, and even enjoyed a piece of the homemade cake one of my students brought me. Dessert TWO times!!! WHAT??? :) But I was comfortable. I dialed in to my satiety, and I knew without doubt that I had eaten when hungry, and stopped at the right time. ♥

I slept well last night. Woke early this morning, opting to spend some time writing here instead of heading to Step class, even though it's been a week since I've been, and I'll be away from my gym over Christmas... It's okay. ♥ I have told myself those words before... Today? I think I actually BELIEVE them. :)

Recovery IS possible, friends! It CAN and DOES happen! :) It's a hard, painful journey, but I promise you, it's totally worthwhile. ♥

Love and Light,

Jen

Jen,
What a beautiful share of 'then' and 'now'. I remember all that you wrote about (except of course, your experience yesterday!), and I am so thankful for you and your strength to push through your fears and work to reclaim the life you deserve! You have truly come a very long way, and your awareness and insight amazes me. HUG ♥
You are truly amazing...and life is beginning to 'give back' to you as you so deserve!
I miss you, but hope to see you in Toledo this Spring for the 2011 Walk!! Have a wonderful Holiday break!
HUGS and love, Jan ♥

Jan,

Thank you, dear friend! ♥ You started me on this healing journey, you know... And for that I will be forever grateful. :) For your friendship, I am greatly blessed. ♥

Spring in Toledo! WOO HOO!! ♥

Love Always,

Jen

It's been an honor to witness YOU, as you took the hard steps toward recovery. You never held back, no matter how frightening or angry you were :), you did it friend...can't wait to have you back in T-town!! Love you too....Jan ♥

Very refreshing story you shared Jen ♥ although when you're at your lowest point with ED, as I am today, I just dont see those feelings/actions in my future...hopefully next year you will be reading a 'now' and 'then' of my life :)

Very inspiring post, Jen. It's a good reminder when I'm going through those times where it seems like recovery is impossible. Thank you!!

This is exactly what i needed right now, Jen. An inspirational post reminding me that this is indeed possible. Thank you! And i am VERY happy for you. Hope someday i'll be able to write a post like this too!!!

That's the only way to win this war, friends... One small step at a time. Sometimes that means moving backwards, or sideways, or in circles... ;0) Just keep at it. Refocus after a slip, and stand back up! :) I believe you can all do this! And I look forward to reading your success stories too! :) Please remember not to discount ANY positive moment... They all need to be honored. We can not wait until the end of our journey to celebrate. The truth is, life is a continuous journey. It's not about reaching a destination. A small moment for me?? Tonight I ate pancakes at Denny's with my dad. And they were yummy! :D Success comes in all different packages... What are some of YOUR "smaller" moments? :)

Love to you all,

Jen

JEn: I am amazed at the transformation; in awe and in hopes still that I will get there. Have a blessed and wonderful holiday
Much love to you!!!!