Which is a better way in dealing with an ex? if you use a dart board you can really stick them between the eyes but then you ruin the picture but if you use a nerf gun the kind with the rubber darts with suction cups you can do the same and no one can see what you really want to do
Does the ex really deserves to be in the picture? Do not do anything, say a prayer for yourself and ask God to guide you and to take care of you. It is hurtful, but it is easier to look toward the future, because it can bring happiness and compassion, but the past is gone. Wishing you the best and God bless you.
I am so proud of you. You are thinking of small wepons. I would have been thinking of a tank. LOL
Really. He is not worth your hell. You will find your way and the success of your life will be enough pain for him.
I suppest a tank with an automatic dart machine gun..... Just an idea... hehehe
ps, who cares if you ruin the picture!! THEY are the ones who ruined the picture just by being in it!!!
I cut my **** out of all the pictures.... if he dies, there won't be many pic's with him on the picture boards....
Guess the ****s should have been nicer!!
Big giant hugs, Suzee
Vicarious physical abuse was something I always imagined. I always wanted my ex to feel the pain he had inflicted upon me - the fact that he'd left me without any clue as to what he'd done. I knew deep down, that someday he would reap everything he'd sown. But the knowledge of that has only come three years later - and if I'm honest - the kind of "karma" that has happened to him - I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
I've learnt best of all - reaping revenge on another person - it may take away the pain for a little bit - but ultimately it will never undo what you went through. And if anything you should be proud that you survived whatever the pain was - you are the stronger person - you took the pain and you've lived for another day. Don't invest time into someone who doesn't deserve it. If you have to spend time on them - make sure it's pity, or even wanting them to realise what they've done and changing. Trust me, I know it's the hardest thing to do - it took me so long to come to terms with things, but it's put me in a better position. I am the stronger person now, I can love and want only the best for him - even if he can't do it for himself.
MarthaMeOhMy- I agree with you. We can not hurt them more than they will hurt themself. And the road we are on will only make us stronger and take us to a better place. Unforanately tjis is something we do not believe until we have been on that road for a while and can look back and see where we started from. When this happened to me a year ago and people try to tell me that. I wanted to punch them in the face. I was aching and they were giving me life lessons. I think at the beginning we need to vent, cry and want to run them over with a tank. In time we all come to that wondering place if realizing that we will be ok. Different,but ok.
Startingover - you are so right. And please believe me when I say if I caused anyone any offence it wasn't meant - honest! I just know when I went through the pain hurt was the last thing on my mind...as I thought "What's the point?" I vented my anger through my Art work, and that is perhaps where my life was saved. Cry, vent, scream! But create wonderful things with the anger. Poetry is always a good one...a novel - that's what my friend produced. Just don't let anyone drag or pull you down. But you are so right, a different but ok place, where we don't hate the world as much anymore :)
Tede, thanks for the smile today & I always liked the Mommy Dearest type activities but know there not relevant in the long run.
April
MarthaMeOhMy- I know what you mean about working your pain and anrgy out in your art. It is funny how from great pain grows something beautiful. It must be the rebirth of ourself. I am working on something myself. And I do not think you offened anyone. I just think venting in the beginning is needed. Get it out so you can move on. I once told someone that hating him took so much of my energy, and I did not want to waste anymore energy on him.
Good to talk to you. Hope to hear from you again soon. Sue
Don't worry ladies I would never even try to hurt him not that I do not want to do something to him but I fantasize about a gator invested swamp a car bumper a short piece of rope, a tall tree or maybe a fallen one but for that one I'd need a hammer and nail to do and the only thing he has that says he is a man. Now I'll let you put the puzzles together.
He called me again last night wanting to discuss a deal half the people around me say it's because he's scared he's going to lose the court ruling and believes he will get a better deal with me then with the judge. Others say that he's doing it because it's another way to control me ... IDK!!!
but last night the negotiation hit a wall there's only two things I really wanted out of the divorce one being the most important of course is custody of our son. Which he said if I would agree to firing the lawyers and closing the divorce then he would sign a contract that says he is giving me primary custody of our son with regular visitations when he can and a month out of each summer but if he did sign a contract there only one place I could see it being useful to me ... the bathroom.
He also said that he would assist me in not only moving but rent and utilities as well but gave me no time line as for how long he would help out. what really broke us down was after giving me our son and giving me housing and utilities he tells me that our daughter is planing to move to OH in a couple of months and he decided that she could give me her car and when she moves up there she can use his car. I'M SORRY BUT I WANT HIS CAR!!! he babies it he spends hours cleaning it he keeps it looking like it just came off the showroom floor. While she has trashed her car not wreaked it but the inside is filthy dirty it has a smell in it from God only knows what it's in need of new tires and the air sucks in it. while his has every option he could get. I told him I am not playing second string to her any more if her car is good enough for me then it's just as good for him. I do not need a constant reminder around me that tells me that they think I'm trash and nothing more then just crap on the bottom of their shoes they can't wipe off.
I want his car because it's the only thing he has left that has any value to him He has to have flashy impressive expensive cars to look like he is successful even if its a lie. It would hurt him to have his possessions or his money taken away. If I take our daughters car then I am saying I am worth less then he is. It's not that I like or really want his car I want him to have to give up something (and have to pay for it too) and know that their is a price to pay when you do something wrong that you can't take away from someone else to give to another to save your own things. This is just an item a material item he's thrown away the most valuable possessions he could have had ... his family the one that he helped to create and he tossed it away like it was a rotten fish . I know I shouldn't care about a stupid car and I should have just been glad about the offer but something tells me that this isn't remorse he is feeling just him once again trying to reduce his losses. Oh well I always knew a leopard couldn't change his spots and I guess neither can he
Something smells & its your decision. As long as you've been married seems theres alot more at stake here & too if someone wants to fall off the face of the earth.....they can.
Oh, by the way I live in MS. theres lots of gators here :) (Am originally from CA. born & raised, moved here in '94, so I'm not far from you if your in TX).
well April clear out the spare room for me cause I might be moving in . I am not wavering I couldn't if I even wanted too which I don't He lives for himself and his tokens that shout " Look at me I have a flashy shinny car gold rings and important power clothes I am a success at my work take notice of me" but the sad part is he is going to die alone bitter man
Your not alone there honey w/the "Look at ME", I've seen it time & time again & usually they are lacking within themselves as your well aware of.
The rooms have been ready I just havent filled them, its my plan B although I can get 3x over my mortgage if I'd bite the bullet & rent it out but didnt want some gangster to trash it so here I am.
I hope you keep your attorney if affordable.
The whole thing sounds a bit fishy to me. Do you really think you can trust him without a lawyer? Be careful.....
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Welcome back Oh I don't trust him at all He's nothing more then the slimmy ooze off the underbelly of a slug ( Sorry no disrespect to slugs) He is in the Auto sales business after all. You should check out the whole story on my "Still waiting " post he just SHINES in it I promises you'll just love him as much as I do today
Ah, but the best method is to tape a picture of him to a punching bag and beat it to a pulp. Not only does it work out the anger......it's great at keeping you fit and toned!!! Hey, I look mavvvaaaahhhlous darlin' thanks to the Ex.
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I have to say that though that is a great work out the one that has kept me going all these year includes a short piece of rope a tall tree a car bumper a gator invested swamp and his male parts.... you put the pieces together