Isnt it extremely painful when you go out with a person for a while and don't get intimate, and then decide to tell them and they freak out? Maybe I should have hinted around that a friend had herpes and saw what the reaction was first. What do you think?
I wish I could help with this. At least you have the strength to get out there and try. That probably would be a good idea to try. If they react negatively then they wont understand. Good luck!