Dear Mom and Dad, I'm just a Kid, so PLEASE... Do not tal

Dear Mom and Dad, I'm just a Kid, so PLEASE...

Do not talk badly about my other parent. (This makes me feel torn apart! It also makes me feel bad about myself.)
Do not talk about my other parent's friends or relatives. (Let me care for someone even if you don't.)
Do not talk about the divorce or other grown-up stuff. (Please leave me out of it.)
Do not talk about money or child support. (This makes me feel anxious/guilty or like I'm a possession instead of your kid.)
Do not make me feel bad when I enjoy my time with my other parent. (This makes me afraid to tell you things.)
Do not ask me questions about my other parent's life or about our time together. (This makes me uncomfortable. So just let me tell you.)
Do not use guilt to pressure me to love you more and do not ask me where I want to live.
Do not block my time with my parent or prevent me from speaking to my other parent. (This makes me very upset.)
Do let me take items to my other home as long as I can carry them back and forth. (Otherwise it feels like you are treating me like a possession.)
Do not interrupt my time with my other parent by calling too much or by planning activities during our time together.
Do realize that I have two homes, not just one. I'd also really appreciate it if you would let my other parent come into our house every now and then, cause it's my house too!
Do not argue in front of me or on the phone when I can hear you! (This turns my stomach inside out!)
Do not ignore my other parent or sit on opposite sides of the room during my school or sports activities. (Please act like parents and be friendly, even if it is just for me.)
Do not ask me to spy for you when I am at my other parent's home. (This makes me feel disloyal and dishonest.)
Do not treat me like an adult; it causes way too much stress for me. (Please find a friend or therapist to talk with.)
Do not ask me to keep secrets from my other parent. (Secrets make me feel anxious.)
Do not give me verbal messages to deliver to my other parent. (I end up feeling anxious about their reaction. So please just call them, leave a message at work, text, or email.)
Do not blame my other parent for the divorce or for things that go wrong in your life. (This really feels terrible! I end up wanting to defend them from your attack. Sometimes it makes me feel sorry for you and that makes me want to protect you. I just want to be a kid, so please, please...stop putting me in the middle!)
Do not send written messages with me or place them in my bag. (This also makes me feel uncomfortable.)
Do let me love both of you and see each of you as much as possible. Be flexible even when it is not part of our regular schedule.
Thanks, Your Loving Child

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Thank you for posting this. I really needed to see this. (:

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Some good stuff there, MIndslave. I like it. If only everyone would adhere to it things would be so much easier on the kids. Big, big hug to you and lots of support.

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Great post! Thank you!

Such great expression and writing. Hope ur feeling better now that you let that out. I am well into my 30s and still can relate to this very much

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