Depression is setting in. Not sure if I have really been depressed yet? I have been angry, sad, anxious, hopeful but not just down like this, it is 4 months into reconciliation and 6 months sine dday. I feel like just laying in bed all day with my thoughts and sadness. Is this pretty common with others? Should I just sit with it for awhile or try to force myself out of it. Just sad waking up sad and tired after a good night sleep...can't wait until joy comes in the morning.
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I spent almost 2 years where you are. I gained about 60 lbs laying on the couch and crying all day. Lately I'm in the anger and anxiety stage. I still have sad days. I am trying to work on myself right now. It's not easy. I force myself to go to the gym, play with the dogs, do something to give my brain a break from it. Some days are easier than others. During sleepless nights, sometimes I try to mentally repeat this "you will not solve this tonight so let it go." Sometimes it works, other nights I'm a mess. Sometimes I give myself only 1 hour a day to come to this page, talk to others and think about it. My hour is up for now, so I will go to the gym and clean the house.
These days come and go. I know there are times when I just want to stay in bed and shut the world out. So I stay for a bit, then I realize my head is up my *** and I'm feeling sorry fir myself, so I force myself out of bed in the shower and I go out somewhere, even if it's for a walk around the street. Afterwards I'm happy I didn't give into my depression.
For me, depression set in around month 10 post DDay. I thought (hoped) I could handle it on my own, but 3 months later realized I needed help. Was diagnosed with Situation Adjustment Disorder.... completely normal under the circumstances AND treatable as well as temporary. I'm grateful that I was humble enough to ask for help.
Yes thanks you two...starting to accept these stages as they come and go but can't get stuck in them. The depression is scary though because I know how it can set in for awhile if we let it....going to rest and sleep but also try to snap myself out of it too sometimes.
I am at month 2 since my husbands affair. I have okay days and very sad days. I don't know how to let go of what happened, or how to move forward. The best thing for me is to keep busy. As much as it feels like all I want is to lay around and cry, my best days are the ones I don't let myself have the time to do that. The gym helps too, having. The music playing on my iPod and working out the stress and anxiety helps.
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