Me and my "guy" we've been on and off for like 4 years now. I'm in college and he is back home. I love him so much.....but neither of us trust each other. I'm trying to make things work im textin every night, every morning, during the day...but is that me just being annoying? He doesn't show me the affection that i need and it gets to me. i miss him, but only god knows what he's doing back home, and every time i think about him i think of him with someone else...this cannot be healthy.
i know exactly what youre going through only im neither of us are away at college and we still dont trust each other. i know how much it hurts. all the advice i get is i should leave him, but its just not that easy. maybe that is the right choice, but i cant help but try to fix it. right now things are going really well, still have those moments where i think hes lying or he thinks im doing something. its just an ongoing process. im not going to tell you to leave him, id just be a hypocrite. but if you really think you can make this work, it will not happen over night. you have to believe that your (and his) love is strong enough that neither of you can imagine hurting one another. talk to him about your concerns, but dont critisize him. always use "i feel" rather than "you do this" or "you dont do that." i hope this helped a little. good luck with everything n keep me updated :)
I fight the same thoughts with my boyfriend as well. I started asking myself why I keep feeling so insecure about not trusting him and I realized that I don't feel secure enough about the relationship because of his lack of full commitment and my lack of self confidence. I started focusing on what I need and want to do in my life to make myself feel good and that worked for a while. Then I started talking to God and that has helped a lot. I still have to remind myself to talk to God every day and every time I feel weak. When I talked to people it made it more confusing on what to do about the relationship. I then came to realize it's all between self, God, and the one you love. In time things will flow.