do women go through a midlife crisis at 38-42 ????
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Well we can. We can also be in perimenopause. Still.. not an excuse to treat people like dirt.
Also each person has their own individual persona. How they cope and feel depends alot on how selfish they allow themselves to be.
Today in society there is this huge lie that says simply" Do it if it feels good. " Using another person, being unfaithful, being indffferent, and wanting everything your way without concern for others will have its ultimate consequences. You can be forgiven, but wrongdoing always comes around to you in some way.
Women can have a change of perspective or mood issues ect..
But in the end we are responsible for our actions. .period.
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I had a mental break down at 28, so I think it can happen anytime.
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Men do, that's for sure! More between 40-45.
when I was in my 20's I dated alot of women mid 30's who were just out to have a good time and wanted no serious commitments and that was understandable. With my ex who is 38 I figured sheesh if the OM was younger I would know it was a age related issue, but a 55 year old dude with a big belly??? Thing is I'm 35 and we had our moments concerning financial situations but never had any bedroom complaints. That night I asked her if the sex was better and she said NO.. "If you call that sex" was her exact words. After researching and talking to a couple of gentlemen 55+ The conclusion I came down to is that most men that age have sex 2 - 3 per week and aren't capable of round 2 for hours or even days and she was a marathon kinda woman. I really don't know what she hopes to achieve by continuing with him but I wish them the best.
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What keeps running through my mind is" for better for worse for richer for poorER in sickness and health " . Sounds like she can't commit because all she could think of is shallow needs and not real love. We have always struggled together against odds and finances and tragedies. It's when you lose sight of love and only want your needs met..then you will stray. She strayed because she was only thinking about herself and no one else.
It's sad bUT I will say it again, selfishness is the core of all unfaithfulness. And be unhappy with yourself and then blaming others.
Age doesnt equal maturity and good decision making. Having a mature, sincere and giving heart and soul does.
There is hope for all. You can find peace. And yes it's cliche but it will take time and rediscovering who you are. And you are a worth individual that deserves good things.
we all are.
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Sure we can. When I turned 40 last year I really struggled with it. I really struggled b/c I also have body image issues. I didn't cheat though. I bought a Camaro! If someone is going to cheat they will come up with any excuse. But it is just that....an excuse. You won't be able to stop them. It is something within them. MH says he did it b/c..let's see. 1.) Mid-life crisis. I called bulls***. The 2.) he survived cancer...again I called bulls****. Oh wait 3.) He was happy in our marriage...ahhhh BS! 4.) I play video games. (Yes...I would play them to much) Still...BS. 5.) He was unhappy...wait please refer back to #3! Finally the truth 6.) I wanted too. They will blame everyone else but themselves. I told him he had to accept the responsibility for his actions and admit that he was just plain selfish. We had problems...yes. But I tried like hell last year to fix things. I made all the changes he asked of me. It still wasn't enough. I am sorry she did this to you. Please realize that you are an amazing person and deserve to be happy. Take care of you!
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sometimes in my lonely moments I like to look at things from a part deep in my mind that try to see events unfolding. I like to arrange events in a way that goes from the past and try to align them with the closest possible outcome, sorta like looking out for Karma. I studied mechanical engineering and read up on metaphysics from time plus people always tell me I'm very creative. I know for certain there is no possible way to predict the future and tie it in with events but looking at things from certain angles I tend to see where things have a shot or will inevitably fail, sorta like how a pool player sees a shot on the pool table. With my ex it was rough because I felt like I had to be a father to three little girls instead of just 2, kept encouraging her to make positive plans and kept encourage her to work on her creative skills BTW she does not have a diploma. She definitely took advantage of my kindness but I'm curious to see if any of the wisdom I was teaching her got stuck in her head. I think this is what's most important to me, if she didn't learn for her own sake because of her own selfishness then atleast her daughters will have become wiser and will inevitably rebel against her waywardness because not even they are happy with her right now.
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@adrian35 i havent yet lol ask me next month, ill be 40. Might have a better angle on it 