I am wondering, how many of you who are in a relationship go to bed alone every night? My body aches jt to be held. There was a time I would have sex with some one so I could be held. If I was on a date with you, and when it was over I said something like; 'can I spend the night? I do not want to have sex. I just want to be held.' Anyone out there who would believe this? I never found anyone who did. So we had sex and then I got to be held. I need to be touched, cuddled, hugged, and held so bad that there are nights I cry myself asleep. And what really makes it bad is my wife is sleeping in the next bedroom. I noticed that most of my posts do not generate ny feedback. When reading what I have written, am I the only one with these issues? It would be nice just to hear from somoeone that's all.
I go to bed alone each night. My husband is a night owl and I am a lark. But when he does come to bed which is usually around 2am - 3am in the morning, he holds me then. Though I have at times thought how nice it would be if we went to bed together at night. For years he worked at night and I slept alone. When he started working day shift back in 2000 and was coming to bed at night, I had to get use to sleeping with him again. So, even though it's late at night when he comes to bed, I am grateful to have him then when I can.
I've slept alone for soooo many years now........so you're not alone & YES one will crave the feeling to have someone hold them, be near them, just knowing their there & have eachother.
Have you ever tried just talking to her & telling her how your feeling? Might be possible shes feeling the same exact way & there are issues that need to be talked out & worked through over time w/patience & understanding of eachothers feelings or needs are, emotionally & physically, unless I missed something greater in the threads that has happened to divide you two...... I'll go look now.
Take care of you.
April
April, thanks for your response. She will not discuss anything that has to do with feelings and emotions. When we are in public we look like a very happy couple. But inside the house it is completely different. I hope this doesn’t offend you but when she is walking aqround without any clothes it drives me crazy. I want her so bad. Here is another personal question. How common do you think women use sex as a weapon or a means to control the relationship?
being alone is a circumstance many advoid at all costs, this often proves detremental to the one who u really care for as u have found out.
going to bed alone is what most of us do even if we are in a relationship, others have no choice and for some its our own actions that cause the problem.
u are a grown man who has the ability to sort out your life, but somehow i think u want people to allow u to get out there and do your thing, you dont want to really stop your actions just find someone who will validate them so u can continue.
in other posts u say u have found help so im left wondering if u are not gettin the go ahead from this person and find it to restricting to be a good boy now.
if u could take five minutes to look back over your life what would u say was the two best memories u ever had and why them
id be interested to know the real u not the jack the lad u are posting as.....
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)
Wow. It is hard to come up with two memories. The first would have to be when I got sober. Over 30 years. And when I married my wife. I look back at some of our old pictures and hurt. You might have missed it but I have taken complete responsibility for my actions. I did it. I did it because I was selfish and self centered. Now, when ever I look at her I see the pain and the hurt that I caused. No one has the right to hurt another person like I hurt her.
Bill, shes PISSED & IS PROTECTING HERSELF since YOU did not concern yourself w/her feelings according to your others posts. All the things your saying here..... have you said this to her & GIVE her the opportunity to OPEN UP in HER own time????? Like D said the vows werent taken seriously which make her FEEL & KNOW the marriage was just a big LIE & shes probably looking back feeling like she wasted all these years & wondering what to do now, she has no one & feels like a FOOL. You have a long way to go & I'm not sure when this can of worms was finally opened........
Congrats on being sober.
hon
i hear what u say but does SHE?? u as april says made her feel a fool and slighted.
time to dig deep and humble yourself, i hope u have told or even shown her this site so she can see u are brave enough to come back and respond to our replies and that the most memorable memory is HER AND THE MARRIAGE.
hope u suceed sooner or later
as always loving thoughts and positive vibes
D :)
Excellant idea D. He'd have to edit out the cybersex post though hummmmm.......Bill she would realize that maybe.....JUST MAYBE your humble & ARE SORRY & willing to do what it takes.
Bill, As a wife myself who has been cheated on in the past, when I found out it made me feel like I wasn't woman enough for him. The hurt I felt went deep down inside. It caused me to freeze up sexually with him. When we did have sex again, I wondered who he was thinking about when he was with me. It definitely changed my behavior in the bedroom. This occurred many years ago and I am better today but I still have my moments when I remember and the hurt is there. We made it through it but it was a rough time. The healing to our relationship did not occur overnight but over time it did.