Does anyone else get like a, 'loneliness rebound' after bein

Does anyone else get like a, 'loneliness rebound' after being around loved ones? I am lonely a lot, which might be part of what makes my time with good friends or family so precious and wonderful. But then when it's over, I feel so much worse. Like a giant hole in my heart afterwards, and I feel pretty empty in general. Anyone understand this? The loneliness after a really nice time with friends is brutal for me. I'm going through it right now and wow, it hurts.

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I'm sorry you're feeling that way, friend. Please know that you're not alone here. Are you seeing a therapist? Do you have a support group nearby where you can meet people regularly? I just said a prayer for you, and I hope you'll feel better soon. Sending hugs your way.

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Thank you, @littlestarsmum. Your reply is very kind and sweet. I still feel so empty this morning, it just goes to show how much I love the person who visited me yesterday that I hurt so much afterwards. I do have a therapist. I don’t think she really understands me though, so I don’t tell her about a lot of things, like this for example I don’t talk about. Maybe I should. There aren’t support groups near me. If I really wanted to motivate I could find a place to volunteer, but also having social anxiety (and anxiety in general), it’s easier said than done. Thank you for the prayer and hugs. I love and appreciate that so much. :slight_smile:

Yes, I completely understand and experience it every time I have an enjoyable experience with ppl. That's a rare thing for me getting together w ppl I love nd get along with anyway.
Being intuitive and my whole life -empathetic...it's like my brain has already started the disconnecting leaving process even WHILE I'm enjoying my time or sharing a laugh or a good meal. My mind is always amped 'ahead'.
I also share the problem of 'does my therapist really understand me?' A constant worry.
Also you are not alone about the whole getting motivated to go volunteer somewhere. It's always like whoa, it sounded like a good idea but now, I have to actually get myself out there to DO it!!
Thanks for sharing your story a bit.

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@Littlesis7 So you know exactly what I’m talking about. It does help knowing it happens to other people too. Not happy about how much it hurts inside of course, but good that it’s a thing that happens, the rebound. It’s rare for me to be around loved ones too. I do enjoy it in the moment though. But as soon as I get in the car to leave, it hits me. Or when they get in the car themselves. And yes! Volunteering sounds great… but if I stay home I won’t have anxiety so… it makes it tough.

Yeah I get that, I feel that way alot, about a month ago for example I went out to the movies with my 2 brothers and my little brother has gf, seeing them together happy, makes me feel sad and really alone, even jealous, I am very happy for him but I cant help but feel like I will never have that or have friends and a normal life.

Hi @RedRiver88, thanks for commenting. I totally get those other feelings too. Being around happy couples… I’m happy for them too, but I feel devastated inside myself from not having anyone like that. And all the feelings you mentioned, those are my thoughts too. I would never admit to anyone in my regular life… feeling this way. All my friends have someone special, or are married. I’m the only single one. I’m just grateful my friends hang out with me. There are couples who only hang out with other couples, so I don’t want to push anyone away telling them about my darkness. I tried once and it wasn’t received well. I hope someday we both find one. I’m sorry you have these feelings too, but it is comforting knowing I’m not the only one in the world.

Almost every single time for me. I am one of 4 sisters and I am the only one who is not married with young kids.We live very different lives in many ways. I am so blessed to be a part of this wonderful family but yes, it takes a toll on my soul each and every time. I had my son when I was young and he is grown now. It used to be him and I doing everything, now it is just me. The two sisters that I am closest with and live near both have young children and have life stuff going on most of the time. Every birthday, holiday, or even just a Sunday, though I love being with them, leaving each time leaves a pit in my stomach and an ache in my heart.

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@cchavez84 thanks for sharing here. I didn’t realize there are other people feeling this way because a few people have commented now. Yes, me too about even if it’s just a regular day and I see my friends or my Mom, the pit in my stomach starts immediately. I’m not sure if I feel it in my heart too. Kind of that hole area just feels empty and hollow. Either when I get into the car, or their car backs out of my driveway, it starts that quickly. I don’t have kids, but I can imagine how hard it must be once they’ve grown and started an adult life. It has to hurt badly. At least it would for me. I guess we just all have to hang in there. I hope this will pass for all of us. Unfortunately it feels to me like things will never change.