Does finding guys good looking, and noticing guys more (When I don't want to be) a symptom of HOCD?
You will always notice and find other guys good-looking in the same way you might think a dog is cute - because you are a human and thus notices attractive things. Accepting that you find other guys good-looking is one of the first steps to recovery.
Llamativa is right. Last night I went out with my gf and her older sister. Our waiter was a goodlooking dude. Tall, dark hair, built nice, (someone I would like to look like) but my mind got anxiety instead of a pleasant feeling. If I was truly gay I would feel extremely pleasant just being in his presence but I felt uneasy, nervous, I was checking the whole time. Do I find him attractive? Is he gay? Is he looking at me? Etc etc but the funny thing is when I see a cute girl I'll automatically think about what she looks like naked, it's automatic like every straight guy. But when I see guys it's just their appearence and that's when the anxiety comes because I realize it's a dude and my OCD sees that as danger. But I don't run away I stay there with the anxiety until it subsides while fighting off the urge to check. I never automatically think of what a guy looks like underneath his clothes. For girls it's natural to me. For guys it's an obsession and it's become a habit of always checking.
@BeatingOCD13 that's exactly what happens to me! Holy sugar! This had made me feel a lot better.
@HOCDIsBadMn I’m glad you feel better but that’s reassurance and you will only go back to obsessing soon. But that’s OCD my friend. Go see a therapist if you can. Make sure they know about OCD. And tell them what you feel. I can bet my left nut that they tell you “yep you have OCD” now let’s kick this things ass pal
I cant believe how common this theme is. I was in the worst state of mind and I almost commited suicide but I am a fighter I never give up. I want to win and beat this thing. If anyone needs someone to chat to dont be scared to message me because I will be glad to talk and help others. Its a very scary illness and we need to suppory each other to get through it
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