I am new here and not sure what to do with the feelings that I have been having lately. I am a person who keeps feelings inside and now I feel im overwhelemed with them. My husband and myself have been trying to conceive for over 4 years. Nothing seems to work.When friends,coworkers and other family members has babies I feel sad enough but now my younger sister just told me that she is pregnant. She took 3 tests and all positive. Has a dr appt today to confirm. The thing is she is not married and with a man who is not welcome into my home. They broke up, she knows that he isnt welcome into the family after 5 yrs being together (now only seeing each other not even back together) and now they have been trying the last few months.(why I dont know ) When she told me I cried and couldnt stop. I dont know what to do. Im suppose to spend christmas with the family and I dont know if I want to now. Im trying to be happy for her after everything but I cant. I dont know how to deal with this. I want to be around my family christmas but I dont know if I can. It feels like she stabbed me in the back but I know that she didnt.
Oh sweetie,
I am so sorry about what is happening with you and your husband. But keep trying everything you can. i can imagine it being an exhausting and heartbreaking process and it's so great ye have each other to lean on.
In regard to your sister I am sure she didn't mean to hurt you with the news and only wants to be assured that her big sister will be there for her. I am sure you feels quite alone in regard to knowing that the fella she is with is not exactly wanted around too much. And she does need you a lot, even though it may be difficult for you right now.
I don't think anybody can fully comprehend what it is like to have trouble conceiving unless they have been through it. I also had a friend who had trouble too and after years of trying they had their first in June. So please try not to give up hope.
Love you so, stay strong
Moongal x
Dear s & l,
I am sorry to hear about the current challenges you are facing. First, please know that everything you are feeling is normal, given the circumstances. Second, you will need to figure out how much you can handle, as far as being around the family at Christmastime. Your sister and the rest of your family must know how emotionally painful it is for you to be around pregnant women (especially your sister). So they will probably understand if you need to limit your time with them -- or see the rest of the family when your sister is not there.
I wish you and your husband much peace and comfort, as you go through your fertility journey.
So sorry to hear that your have trouble conceiving. I just lost my daughter 4weeks ago. I was 6 1/2 months pregnant with her. My biggest fear is that I will never be able to have children. Noone understands the pain unless you have gone through it. Just have faith that god will one day bless you with a baby. Your in my thoughts and prayers.
Brinleigh,
I am so so sorry for your loss. 6 and a half months is a long time to be pregnant, it must have caused you so much pain. I am so so sorry sweetheart. I pray that you will get pregnant again, when you are ready and that you’re little darling is Resting in Peace now.
You will make a great mum.
Love to you
Moongal x
I know exactly how you feel!! I too have been trying to get pregnant for 4 years and have gone through 2 close friends getting pregnant, then a co-worker and my sister getting pregnant twice; now one of the friends is pregnant again! It is so hard to be around people who are pregnant, but still be happy for them. I have to work hard to look at pregnant women and kids and then not think about it. It's not easy, and you'll definitely go through ups and downs, but know that you are definitely not alone in your struggle! I don't know what your beliefs are, but I've used my faith to get me through- giving my struggle to God. It works for a while, then the roller coaster goes back down again. Then, I get back on track and my mood goes back up. I don't have an easy answer or fix, except to stop yourself from thinking about it and lean on your husband for support, as I'm sure he is struggling too. Good luck over Christmas and please remember that you are not alone!!
I know this may seem like an off the wall question: Do you eat or drink anything with nutrasweet (aspertane) in it? If you do, stop and you will be more likely to get and stay pregnant
hi i'm sorry to hear about this, but i think that you will have a child of your own my mom lost my baby sister last year it still hurts, last year my 40 year old aunt had her first baby after years of trying she did suffer but she never gave up hope her baby is very pretty and healthy and they're very happy i think that you should never give up hope you never know what life can bring you, and about your sister i think you should support her she needs family someone to turn to when she is sad don't become just another person she can't count on its better to have your next family member to love you and not hate you i hope this help.Your friend Ingrid
Yeah I know how that feels. Because whenever my sister told me she was pregnant made really sad and depressed and I didn't know what to do and if I could be around her at all. Then I just tryed my hardest be support of the best I could cuz I knew I would want the same from her... Everything then started work out... I couldn't imagine my life without her kids.... If you ever need to talk just sent me a message on here.....