I am very recently divorced was finalized on the first of November i crawled into a bottle for awhile but the other day i decided to quit drinking and poured all of my alcohol down the drain. But now i just dont know what to do anymore. I thought our marriage could make it through anything
considering it made it threw me being deployed and missing my daughters whole first year. But i got out for being hurt and we came home and after 3 years she slaps me in the face with divorce paperwork and told me she had been cheating on me for almost a year. and she had told me it was my fault for always working and never being home but i had to work so much because she refused to work. So since all of this i just dont know what to believe or what else to do to make it through this.
Good for you for stopping drinking! We so often want to numb the pain, but it is so necessary to feel the pain, learn and grow from it. Please do not blame yourself for the demise of your relationship. She has not accepted the responsibility. You did what you felt was best for your family. All you can do is love your children and move on. Be the bigger person and forgive her. Your children need this example and you will come out better for it in the long run.
Thank you for your service and sacrafices. I hope someday you see the blessing in the divorce. Being married to someone who thinks "I acted immorally and badly, but it's YOUR fault" would be problematic forever. Find a divorce group near you. Stay active with family and friends. Time will ease your pain. Read some of the stories here and no you are not alone. Take care