Don't let the Narcissist in your life keep you isolated. You will suffer dearly, as it will be harder for you to leave them and they know you will have very little, if any, support, by the time they are through with you. Keep your connections alive and stay active in all the activities you're used to. Do not deviate from that. Ever.
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Looks like you got a lot of people to talk to right now, but I'll be around if you want o message me now or later. Hope you are feeling better.
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There are times that I think that talking or thinking about a problem isn't the best way to solve or overcome it. I have had my fill of analyzing my situation and I really don't care to anymore, since my life does not revolve around this person. He was a hollow shell, with such a vindictive need to outdo everyone...that he is actually no one. A non-entity that deserves no thought at all.
I just got out of a 9 year narcissistic relationship/marriage. By the time he was done with me I had three kids with him, had given my oldest to my ex-his father 8 years ago (out of fear of how my current boyfriend was treating him), and all of my friends and family had put me to the side because of how I started acting around him and for him. Now its a mess, I finally stood strong and called 911 for the third time in 3 years, and he got in trouble this time. Now it's all law issues with asslt and battery and custody and cps..... I hope my kids pull through okay. But you can't let someone treat you like that. I haven't been alone since I was 16 (18 years ago). It's difficult, but after a very short period, I realized I'm overall happier this way, then when he was around and what I felt and went through daily.
I'm sorry that you went through that nightmare. You should get involved in the church and get closer to God, if not already. Narcissists are pure evil and they do not exemplify Christ-like traits in any way. This is how and why they can do so much harm to others, as they portray the total opposite of his virtues. Your walk becomes difficult around them because they challenge every moral in the Book. There is life outside their little bubble that they have created for you. A much better one, but the problem is that we, as victims, cannot imagine it...as they are all that we've known. Real love is not covetous or possessive...but for the Narc, they discard, as soon as they feel they've dominated you, completely. They don't seek to own, but mark their territories.