My mom's drinking has gotten worst. Last Night I was doing homework and She came in my room screaming and yelling about something and I didn't know what to do. my friends say just do what she says BUT I didn't know what was going on. And she pulls me up and sits me on the floor and cuts ALL my hair off. [I'm in class writing this.] Now I don't have my long red hair its short uneven and A LOT of kids are talking about it. My best friend Tori cried and told me I had to come home with her. she fixed my hair where you DON'T know if its short or what. BUT I don't know what to do. I DON'T wanna end up like her or anything. :( I HATE going home !
Hi Cali, I am so sorry for what you are going through with your mom and for what happened last night. Do you have any family members that you can call for help? If not, then it's important that you let an adult know, because your safety is very important and your mother clearly needs help.
Please know that you are not alone, we are here for you.
I try.
Cali, I agree that your mom probably needs some help. But for now we need to focus on you. Do you have a dad you can talk with? Possibly the guidance department at school is a good place to get some help. Your safety is so important. Let us know how things go.
My dad is suposed to be 'dead' as what my mother tells me. BUT about 3 years ago some man called looking for me he was wishing my a happy bday. BUT I doubt that was him. :(
Cali, how are you today? Do you have an adult that you can speak with; any family that lives near you or anyone at school?
I'm great. Uhm... My school won't do anything because its abuse. I try to stay out her way because I don't wanna it to start as abuse! I'm in school right now I just got my report card today and I made ALL As but my mom doen't like that. She says 'its show off'' My family takes up for her.
Cali, congratulations on your straight As! That's so amazing! I am so proud of you. So to understand correctly, you've talked to your school about this and they won't do anything about it? As well, your other family members take your mom's side? I just want to make sure I'm understanding this right.
Hey Cali.... thank you very much for sharing. Your story stikes a chord in me, for I had nearly the same thing happen to me, only it was both of my parents that pinned me to cut off my hair. I am sorry this happened to you...I know how much it can hurt, and you end up having to wear the hurt every day. Congrats on the good report card...keep up the good work, and do it for yourself. I wish you the best in your situation, and in anything you care to do I wish you success.
HAPPY HEALTHY STRONG FREE.
Yes I have told my school. My family thinks its ALL my fault she drinks, Because I ask her a lot of question. I can't help. my life is hell. I cry at night I scream I wanna kill myself. I have runaway 3 times. I tried to cut my MAIN veins. Because I can't take it. My brother and sisters moved out and live with their dads. I don't ge† to see them. So they don't know what is going on. I don't have anyone to talk to. My best friend Tori has tried to help but my mom push her away last night. Now she won't talk to me. My cutting has gotten worst I started doing it on my tummy. I started wearing JUST black. stop talking STOP eating STOP listing. I just hide in my bathroom and listing Black veil brides and cry. !
Cali101, how is your school helping you through this? Please know that there are people there who can help you through this, don't hold all of this inside. Can you please go see a counselor at school tomorrow and let them know how serious things are? We are here for you. Please keep sharing with us.
That is why I come here. My mom doesn't care. I run from my fears! I run from life. I want tis to end NOW!
Cali101, congrats on your report card sweetheart! I cant imagine the fear you must feel just coming home and seeing her there! Please stop hurting yourself, you have enough people doing it to you!! If you need to, go to the hospital, tell them your suicidal and that you dont feel safe at home. Tell them if they send you home that you will try to harm yourself, they have to keep you if just for eval and then they well get ahold of the police and social services, i just read your last post of your mom leaving you for over a week and having all thoses pipes and needles. I do hope you called the police and gave them all of that and the note she left you. You need out of that living situation now before it gets alot worse! Who knows what she will do the next time that she comes into your room like that, your family is stickin up for her because their stupid and dont know what else to do! Please update us! AND PLEASE STAY SAFE!
Thank you. I'm trying...to stay safe. I been living with my grandmother and She called me a lair and Said ''I made her runaway and I put those Needles and pipes there'' I cried ALL night. My boyfriend's dad asked IF I wanna to move in and Idk if I should.
It's most important for you to be in a good nurturing environment where they can help you through this. Is your boyfriend's home a good environment, where you will feel safe?
Yes. Yes it is. His dad has picked me up from bars late at night. His dad has tried to help.
Wow Cali; this really struck a cord with me. I grew up in an alcoholic home; my mother was an alcoholic and has DID on top of it. I then turned to alcohol when I was 10 and continued my alcoholism until 5 years ago (35 years of being a drunk). I put my kids thru so much shit.
I would recommend that you report this abuse–it may be the only way your mom will get help and that you can begin your own journey of healing. It’s a hard decision to make I know and scary, but it sounds like the situation is escalating and it’s not going to get better on it’s own.
As an adult child of an alcoholic, a recovered alcoholic, as a mother and as a mental health professional-I implore you to get help! Your mother and other family members may not like it, but it sounds like they are all in denial, but you have to take care of you! Be safe.
You are worth the help. You mean very much to this world and to us. I don't even know you and my heart goes out to you. Sometimes hard choices have to be made. If your boyfriends dad is a safe person and is offering to help maybe you should take him up on his offer. You are worth being safe. Your mom's problems are her own and she must own them and stop blaming you for her problems. You are NOT the reason she drinks. She drinks to hide the misery of her own life and then picks on you and blames you for her own choices. It will be hard, but this is her "stuff" to deal with. As for you I encourage you to find safety, it could get worse. Oh yea, The grades, I quit school in 10th grade(stupid) We here are sooo proud of you to be able to focus on your schoolwork in midst of great trial and testing.
Most likely one of these days(hopefully later) you will be a mother. These things tend to cycle over and over again so what you experience is what your children could experience. But, It does NOT have to be that way. You can get help for yourself now and not be so prone to drinking yourself into oblivion like your mom does. These are hard life choice and to be honest you at your age should not have to make them. You should be having fun with your friends and working through school and having a boyfriend and going to football games and listening to music and more stuff that teenagers do. But, this is where you are at right now. So, make the best choice you can to protect yourself physically and spiritually.. Many prayers ascending..Steve
Thank you guys so much. (: I'm living with my boyfriend and His dad. I feel better about my life now. I'm a teen. (:
Cali, I am so happy that you are with your boyfriend and his father in a safe and nurturing environment. Please let me know how things continue to progress for you. Take good care of yourself and know that we are here for you.