Everytime I eat I feel like I am losing control

So I feel like I am mid binge right now... That's the thing, I feel like my bingeing is a slow sneak up on me kind of thing. I eat a little bit of food at a time, but two hours later I feel like I have cleared the entire kitchen out.

A side of this here, a cookie there, and before I know it I am boarder line crying because I want to go purge. Purging is like the restart button. Like when alcoholics wake up and say, this is going to be my last drink... I eat and say, if I could just purge one more time, I can start from scratch and have a clean slate. I'd be new and ready to fight the bulimia. I can't stand the thought of leaving the food in my system, because that would be awful. I just don't know how to stop the cycle. My therapist told me to keep a food journal, but I fear that this has only exacerbated the problem. Because I am so focused on what I eat I freak out and eat too much... Why can't I just eat like a normal person?
Sad face :-(

v.... wow! i totally hear you on this one. i keep a food journal to track what i'm taking in and feel so disappointed when i have "failed" during my day and gone off track. once i've fallen off i just keep going because i already want to purge so i might as well make the most of it..... this is a huge struggle.... how to stop when you know how easy it is to get rid of what you are wanting/already taking in?

ahh... to eat like a normal person and not care....

exactly! I feel like that's how my ED got started a few years ago... I remember eating way too much and feeling a little sick, so without thinking I just went to the bathroom and purged. What I remember the most is how easy it was... Im hoping today will be a better day. I am going to try writing down what I ate at the very end of the day, so I am not so focused on every single thing I put in my mouth the minute I put it in my mouth. It's another day, so hopefully it's a better one :-)
Thanks for you support J... I hope you are doing well today!!

v.... how was your day?

jamie

Today was a much better day... I didn't keep the food journal, I just kind of logged things in my head. I didn't binge or purge today so let's hope this is day one of many :-) Thanks for checking in!

What about you J? How are you doing?

hey v.... i'm on day 4 of no b/p and i can't believe how great i feel today (let's hope it continues) i am constantly on the go so i do plan my meals every night and make them for the following day but i'm learning how to be ok with going off of my plans a little here and there.... it's kinda hard if i think about consuming more than what i have planned but i know i need to eat if i'm hungry and that if i choose healthy options, i'll be good!

keep strong today.... i believe in you!

j

J,

That's great to hear! Congrats on day 4, thats a huge accomplishment!! It sounds like you are doing really well! Try not to feel bad about deviating from your plan here and there... as we know it's all about balance :-)

I am on day two of no B/P and holding strong. We can do it!!!

Have a great day tomorrow and stay strong!

V

Hey V, how’s the rest of your week been? My day 4 turned out really bad… needless-to-say, I b/p and felt like crap but I’m back on track (hopefully) for this weekend… I just can’t figure out why I did it!

Argh… very frustrating!

J

hey there again... hang in there. i feel the same way each time i eat a meal - -i think was it healthy enough, is my stomach over-stuffed, should i get rid of it, -- its awful. we've got to ban together and push through this. i just b/p unfortunately this evening. i've had a tough time even getting through 1 day these days. i know i've got to try hard.

thanks for posting again and will catch up with you soon.

caroline

I still feel a little lost... feeling out the balance between eating and being healthy and overeating and feeling like purging. I feel like I am starting to get a better feel for what a long road this is... but I just hate the in between. I feel like because the way we interpret food and eating is so different from the norm it is extra hard for us to find what is normal is. So I am here... still feeling it out. still feeling kinda crappy because I am not able to purge.... but everyday is just slightly better than the day before. I am afraid I will fall off my streak, but all I can do is stay positive. Thank you to all of you for your support... you have no idea how much of a difference you have all already made in this battle for me. Thank you to each of you.
xoxox

Tori

Tori.... it is such a hard line to fine... how do we eat, even just a little too much, and not get that intense urge to get rid of it? I know.... go for a walk, find something else to do, etc but mentally, that's what I struggle with. I wish I could just say no to myself and that would be enough. It's like a totally different mind taking over my rational thinking when I'm in by bulimic mind.

We can figure this out all together! We have got too!

Jamie

Ugh, right now for me a good day would be any day I do not binge and feel sick, aka eat just 3 normal meals and remember what I ate and hopefully exercise. That rarely occurs though. It takes three weeks to start a new habit, and I do not know how to break the cycle.

jamie - i'm with you. its so easy to go off the deep end by eating just a teeny bit too much (or thinking that we do) EVEN when its healthy stuff. i haven't been able to find a resource to stop it.

feeling defeated.

best to you and all the members on the board,
caroline