After what was basically a month plus of holiday parties, eating, training for a run, injuring myself after the run, traveling, having the kids off, not waking up to an early alarm..., let me just say that getting back to my regular schedule is a little harsh. I sit up in bed after the alarm goes off and it is like someone yanked me from the folds of a warm and dark oblivion and it takes all my willpower to get my workout clothes on and get moving! The point that I am slowly getting at is that this is par for the course for every January of my entire life. The whole New Year new beginning is such a lie, I am such a creature of habit! However, I am trying to change, adding new things into my life, inviting people over for no reason, agreeing to let the kids stay out and play a little longer, playing games because it is fun and trying not to think about all the other things I need to do. I am trying to make this year more about the people in my life, not about perfection, which is what I too often aim for.
“What’s so fascinating and frustrating and great about life is that you’re constantly starting over, all the time, and I love that.” -Billy Crystal
Life is funny, we go to school and then often more school and then if you are really into having fun, you go to even more school and then suddenly you are expected to have skills to work. But while you are constantly tested, no one really ever asks or cares about how you are, how you are doing, how you are coping, how you are holding up to the stresses of academia or work, or in life in general and that is really, really sad. A daily or weekly mental health check in should be part of everyone’s life, there should also be regular health checkups, like when we were kids, but once you hit 18, even that runs its course, you age out from having anyone mandate that you should be looked over at least once a year and asked how you are and how you are feeling.
“In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.” -Robert Frost
So here is someone asking you, how are you? How are you doing? And here is another shocker, we don’t need to you to say, “fine.” On our site, www.supportgroups.com, our post box on each of our 220 different group asks, “How are you?” because on here we want you to have a space where you can write freely about what is going on in your life and get the support you deserve, which is something we get giddy about over here. The fact is that outside of a confessional, or in counseling and therapy, getting help is pricey and often hard to come by.
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” -Maya Angelou
Even though this year is probably not going to be vastly different than last year, what we do hope changes is your attitude towards yourself. That this is the year that you acknowledge your imperfection isn’t a character flaw, that you are worthy of getting the help you need, that you don’t give up on getting a diagnosis, or finding a doctor that you trust, that you don’t give up on your dreams, that whatever is hurting you in your life you no longer tamp it down. This is the year you address it head on and finally work on making things better. That you accept that you have control over what is going on, and you acknowledge and believe that there is a path towards healing, that it is possible, that it is worth fighting for.
“You don't get to choose if you get hurt in this world...but you do have some say in who hurts you. I like my choices.”
-John Green, The Fault in Our Stars
2019 is a new chapter, you can rewrite everything in the past and make this your chapter of redemption.
All the best-Team SG