Before I get started please understand that I already have my own viewpoint on this topic. I am not looking for advice. I am just interested in how you deal with this topic in your life.
That being said. Here we go.
How do you keep the faith and belief that everything well be ok when life keeps hitting you on the head with b#@**#@t.
You do everything that you need to and are suppost to and in the end you get it up the rear.
How do you continue on? How do keep a stiff upper lip and keep a position outlook? especially when the ones that are not playing by the rules are getting away with hell.
PLease do not tell me that in time they will get theirs. I do believe that. But when you are down and out. And you look up and see them standing tall. It is a little hard to swallow. So, once again I ask how do YOU keep the faith?
Please do not give me advice. That is not what I am asking for. I am asking how YOU handle YOU.
I look forward to hearing from you all very soon.
Sue
How do I handle myself? I pray everyday for those around me, even the ones who I felt may have hurt me, I forgave, and I remind myself that I can;t control the world, but I sure can control myself.... I think of Jesus, and what he went thru, and the dignity he had to bear the cuelty the world offered..... and I want to be like him.
I read my bible, and look for verses that may relate to situations.... I have found it to be such a knowledgable book... I wish I had discovered it years ago....
It really is the Book of life.
This comming from a man who Finally found jesus at the age of 46
I to read my Bible my pastor recently gave me "faithwalk" by Woodrow Kroll it is a daily journey through the Bible with an inspirational devotional. I go to church, spend time with Christian friends, pray, listen to contempory Christian music. It is a dayly walk and sometimes a dayly struggle.
I am searching for God in this mess of divorce.
Christy
I am trying to keep a stiff upper lip, but I am faltering. Right now I am so worn out by the saying: God doesn't give us more than we can bear. I am tired to death of hearing that, and I am resentful that I am being tested over and over again. I do not blame God for this mess and pain, and I do not have the expectation that anyone but myself will get me out of it.
Please do not throw you pc across the room as you read this, but understand something. The fact that you are going thought this terrible thing in your life means you ARE handling it. Maybe not with the ease you wish. But you are. God somethings gives you a huge mountain to climb, but he also give you the tools to do so. The problem is sometime we do not see the tools. They are our love for our family, our faith in him and the need to go forward. to name a few. God is always there with his hand on your shoulder. We have to remember it is not always about the monment in front of us. But the finish line. It is like when we are on a diet. Somedays are really hard not to give in and have that choclate cake, BUt to fit in to that smaller size is what you are aiming for. These time suck. This is true, but it is the better times we are aiming for.
Last year I lost my sister inlaw to cancer. 4 weeks later we found out our daughter needed a kidney transplant and my husband walked out 3 weeks after that( after 30 years of marriage) I truely believe that God had to have made a mistake. My children and I could not handle all this. But a year later I can tell you we did. My husband did not return. And I am learning who I am. My daughter had her transplant and is doing great. And my sister in law is watching over us. Oh yea, I lost 50 pounds.
Remember God is with you. And if you can not reach him, We are.
Hi Startingover, well let me see where do I begin on how I stay positive, well 1st thing is I have always been a fighter and not one to give up, I will beat this cancer even though Doctors say there is no cure, 2nd I started coming here and my poetry gives me strength, and find it helps others too, when I help someone else it helps me by renewing my strength and desire to fight on, I want to see my grandkids grow up, I want to feel like I have a purpose to fulfill, and I have so many people who pray for me and share their stregth, as you did with your words, thaat have much wisdom in them
Thank You
Frederick
Thank you for saying that about my writing. And I have to say. I can feel you positive energy and strength. It is a pleasure to meet you and would love for us to be friends and support each other. You will be in my prayers each day. I know God sents angels in all forms to teacher us. I also believe that our pain and trials are not onl tests for ourself but lessons for others. If we share our paths, we teach others.
Keep in touch
Sue
Starting Over: Your story inspires me and I know that there will be an end to my horrible pain, but right now I am at a point of sheer panic and not being able to let go and not seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. I do know from a couple of other major life events that it was about 2 years before I could breathe calmly again. I am 2 months into this nightmare and have a long way to go. I am not mad at God, but I am also not in touch in a way that many others on this site are. I am leaning on all my supportgroup.com friends more than anything else.
Hi startingover that would be nice I like to write and be of any help I can be, because it helps me also looking forward to your post and being there
Thank you
Frederick
Soft- Believe me when I say that I understand. It has been 13 months since I last saw my husband and 15 month since my nightmare began. And I am only now starting to feel as if I can breathe. In the begining I was in a black fog. And if anyone said believe in God I would throw something. ANd I was rised going to church every week God was a huge part of my life. But when we are in time of such pain nothing makes sent. It is a very painful journey and NO ONE want to go down that road.
What I have learn- the pain is growth. And it make us strong.
I promise you there will come a time when life is ok again. And you will see yourself in a new light and you will like yourself. Remember you are now in charge. Even if it is only the small things. Like what you eat for dinner. If what you wear. Take joy in the small decisions and soon you will find you will be in control in the large one too.
But until then believe in your support group. We are here, never forget that.
Sue
Frederick- How are you today? It is a beautiful mild day here and I am planning to go in my garden and weed out the beds. It give me much pleasure to garden. To make something for nothing and to enjoy the beauty each day. Eventhough the season is too short the beauty of my garden stays withme through the cold empty days of winter.
I enjoy reading your post and hope to hear from you often. What are your plans for today?
Sue
I try to think that God is trying to put me through a test to test the strength of our faith. Luckily, I have gotten a stronger sense of faith since I became depressed.
Starting Over: Thanks for your encouragement. I am having such a hard time of letting go of my marriage and my husband. I feel envious of the women on this site who say they hate their ex, even though I know that hate is a terrible emotion, too. I still love my husband very much, I do not want to lose him, and I would give my right arm to make this mess go away. He still loves me, and I believe it with my heart, but he is hurt, and is acting on that hurt, and since he has refused counseling to stop the bleeding, I have no choice but to end the marriage.
How to deal with it ?
Very good question.
I look at my childrens pictures it helps to calm me down.
Just keep telling myself that I will laugh when crap happens on her end even if it takes years.
Realize that I am closer to freedom and a great life.
Forget about her totally.
Keep talking here and to people close to you.
Have faith in myself and do not faulter.
Look back at what I have accomblished because of her.
A better parent , better attitude bills all paid up and on time.
No longer living paycheck to paycheck.
I will say that I still get mad when I have to deal with her B%^$#@Remember better than them
Zimmy