Okay, so my husband and I joined the gym at the same time (the 1st of feb.) weighing the same... ugh... he has managed to lose 28lbs by basically playin basket ball an hr -2 a day and not really changing anything but his eating a pack of oreos a day. I have managed to lose 4lbs, thats it, by working my *** off at the gym 2-4hrs a day and cutting my portions a ton and eliminating soda and juice. WTF! I hate it, Im happy for him but beyond jealous at the same time, he only had about 50lbs to lose total and I have about 80-100 to be healthy! I know I sound like a whiny brat but its not fair, I need to lose the weight more and have been trying longer and putting more of an effort into it and I manage to lose not even a pount a week... I def doesnt make it any easier when all my same clothes are fitting and hes getting new clothes and their already not fitting and he just got a belt 2wks ago and has already put 4new notches in it! I honestly cant wait till he goes back to work soon, even though im going to miss him horribly, but then I know that all the crap he buys wont be in the house and I wont be able to binge! I was doing great with my binging again until he started buying all the same old crap again! =(
I just wish I had better self restraint and could manage to lose all this weight. Im not trying to lose weight to be like oh look how hot I am or how skinny I am, its not all for me, its for my kids! I want to be able to run around with them, go out and do things with them, I want to be able to breath when were playing or doing things, I dont want to be self concious of my weight or any of that stuff anymore, Im tired of being the photographer all the time and not in any of the pictures with my babies! I just cant wait until I hit the 30lbs lost mark!
Im starting a diet plan this week and hopefully it works... if not i dont know what else to do. Ive tried cutting my calories a ton, tried eating a million time healthier, making better choices, not binging... ect... nothings working and whenever I start showing that Im down my husband either gets frustrated with me about it or just ignores me, esp when im like oh look hun i lost another lb or 2, or these are gettin loose or ive noticed this area is looking a little smaller.. i get an "ohh" and a nod. thats it. then i start to just feel crappy again and think that its just wishful thinking that im noticing all those things and get down and end up giving up for a bit. but im always like look hun, you look really good, your losing alot! i dont know, i just dont wanna feel alone in this, it just doesnt seem like he cares if i lose anything or not.
just tell him that you need support. its normal for woman to lose weight much slower than men. don’t get frustrated just keep doing what you are doing in a healthy way. maybe talk to a personal trainer at your gym to get some more guidance and see if that helps. patience is really hard but it will pay off. and let your husband know that you do get frustrated but you are going to keep working and want him to encourage you in a positive way.
Hello. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I been there. I lost my 120 pounds all by myself. I understand some people need motivation and support. But you can do it.
Women lose weight slower than men. My mom is in a similar situation. Both of my parents are on the Medifast diet, but my mom has only lost 10 pounds so far, while my father has lost about 25 pounds. It is extremely difficult, but you're patience will be rewarded :) Stay strong dear.
thanks for the positive words everyone! Im very happy for my husband obviously, but at the same time very jealous lol, I would love to be the one whose weight is melting off like no tomorrow and all with no real effort, esp since I am the one who has the MOST to lose to just be healthy!
Im sticking with it, I cannot and will not give up! I cannot keep looking at this person in the mirror. Even though my husband is all positive about the way i look and looked, I hate it, I hate him seeing me or touching like my stomach or anything. He gets mad at me for being so down on myself for the way I look, he thinks im beautiful and tries to remind me that I did have 2 pregnancies within 8mo of eachother... I love that he loves me so much that my weight and shape doesnt bother him, but I just dont understand it, I mean I dont even want to look at myself so I dont see how he can and say that Im BEAUTIFUL!?
Sorry for being negative but I obviously have alot of confidence issues and I know that, and I do try to work on them!
I know what you mean about being jelous of your husband losing weight. I have been struggling to lose weight for a few years, like 5years. I have 4 kids and I am getting divorced and I take care of the kids and everything to do with them and he gets to be the one who does not need to lose weight, because he can go do whatever he wants. Keep up the efforts and you will start to see the results and it sounds like you have a really nice supportive husband. Also from experience of not feeling confident in myself, I say take the compliments with a big smile on your face and run with them. Start to believe him. I also think that you complaining on here and getting your feelings out is not necessarily negative, it means you are getting them out so that you can focus on the positive things and keep going. I hope I did not sound to bossy, I did not mean to. Have an awesome day and keep pushing through. ( truly kind of giving myself this talk too. LOL )
Thanks Survivor4... I have started taking them and running with them! Kind of forcing myself to boost my confidence levels a bit. Its hard when youve never gotten then before and then start gettin them all the time when you dont think that you diserve them. Good Luck with the divorce, keep your head up for the kids and know that you will make it through this as well!
You definately dont sound bossy to me, just the kind of tough talk i need! =)
Have a great day mama!
how are you doing crazybeautiful23? its so great that you are sticking to your workout program and keep pushing forward. I think its so sweet that your husband is complimenting you and wants to tell you how beautiful you are. keep listening to him with time you will start to feel that way and hopefully one day see what he sees in the mirror. Survivor4 said it right take them and run.
i get how you feel about guys losing weight. i have a friendly weight loss competition with friends and the guys are dropping pounds like crazy. it frustrates me but i have some girlfriends that are supporting me and we are all moving slowly together so it makes me feel better. so just to let you know my weight loss is slow but its moving in the right direction. let me know how your workouts are going.