two days ago I let my wife have it over the phone about how much she is hurting the kids. I asked her if she wanted a divorce. She said yes then later in the discussion she said she did not say that she said she did not know. At that moment somehow it seems I let go. I have had no urge to call or text her and dont feel sorry for her for what she is putting herself through like I did. Now I seem to be completly ok with the fact that we probably wont end back up together. And she may never decide to be a mom again and stay strung out. Over the last two days I have hardly thought of her at all except how much the kids need her. It had been every waking minute. Now I have started to think maby i dont even want her back. Maby I thought I did out of desperation because I couldnt have her. I now question if I should take her even if I get the chance because after abandoning her kids without so much as bothering to call them but 2 times in 7 weeks, I think there is a good chance she would do it to them again. I belive people can fall back in love and be stronger than before. I dont even know if I want to anymore because of the children I have to protect them above all. I have custody now I cant afford to be tricked.
Hi Bcjone2, I am so sorry for what you are going through with your wife and children. Without knowing more information of what happened and why, I feel that you have your priorities totally straight with wanting to protect your children. I do believe that people can change and that they deserve second chances, but your wife has to show you proof that she is making an effort. At this time, focus on yourself and your children. Please know that I am here to help you through this in any way that I can.
Thank you everyone here has been great
I am so happy to hear that! Please know that we are here for you anytime you need us.
BCJOne,
Wow, you are going through a lot. Good for you for taking care of yourself and your kids. It takes a lot of courage and faith to make big decisions in your life...and you are doing it. It is never too late for a new beginning. I applaud you.
Lisa22
PS It is very cool that you are feeling good despite the uncertainty, that is no easy task. Transitions can feel very unmanageable. You are doing great!!
Glad you are doing so well, hold on to that I hope it is not just shock. I am crossing my fingers you can keep your head up and walk away from this a stronger father and man. Good luck to you, keep us updated.