I have been Feeling so insecure since I have to wear oxygen 24/7 which is about a year and a half. I have a great man in my life. But some times I feel so insecure w him. I do come from a past relationship where my ex did cheat therefore I know and feel I may b acting a lil periond. Lately, when he's on his phones it's like he's hiding something. I just have a gut feeling like he's trying or is cheating. Keep in mind I don't we haven't been sexual since late December and that time was ugh. I felt like he just wasn't into it. I'm a very beautiful female and I am always getting complements but for some reason I'm battling this
Insecurity issue and
it's affecting my current relationship. We been my bf and I used to live together untill I decided to move in w my family and he went to live w his dad. I feel like a mess w my emotional self. Feeling lost.....
Take it from me, the best way to try and work is this out is to be open about your insecurities with him and when I say open I mean completely transparent from the root of your insecurity to how it makes you think, feel and react.
He also needs to be open and transparent with your and communicate effectively. Take it from someone who has been cheated on, I know how damaging insecurities can be and how poisonous it gets when we dont deal with it.
Have it out with him, people tend to suffer in silence alot because of fear and anxiety of losing someone, thats just torture and life is too short for that.
"The worst thing in the world is to end up with someone who makes you feel alone" Robin Williams
Thanks for ur reply. Ur word r so true to my situation and I only gave a basic short summary. I can totally relate to Robins qoute bz sometimes I feel so alone. I had suggested that we do couples therapy and he said no, that it would make things worse!
Therefor, i felt as if living w him has come to an end for several reasons. I don't want to take away from the good that he has done for me and daughters but i do alone in the relationship.
This is one on his text me
"u r all i ever tried to hold on to but i was making things worse by being selfish,i wish i could say and do the things that u wish to hear and see me do but im rough around the edges and not smooth at all i dont know how to change that i hate it so much... I understand why u needed to get away from me i just wish i could get away from myself... U r an amazing woman and i dont blame u i feel like u did what is best for you "
How long were you dating before moving in with him?
What are his insecurities? I know mine are and I have never tried to hide them, does he hide his? do you hide yours?
You should treat each relationship as it's own entity and you should not compare it to another one. It's not that you feel insecure about your boyfriend, but you are feeling insecure about yourself. You should work on feeling more self - secure. The more secure you feel about yourself, the more secure you will feel around others. Good luck and I hope this helps.