When you lose one love, it seems virtually impossible to picture meeting a new one, though it is very possible. I found this article and the tips it provides to be incredibly helpful, most especially since it discusses being happy and fulfilled on your own first and allowing nature to take its course. If you force yourself to do something sooner than you're ready, then you set yourself up for disaster;
"We know how you feel! Starting over is really difficult when it comes to love and marriage. Getting a divorce, breaking up, or losing the one you love due to their death can be overwhelmingly painful.
If you are faced with finding new love, we have discovered some simple truths that will help you find it.
1. Get healthy -- mentally and physically. Take time to heal and stabilize. You can't make appropriate decisions "off-balance" or in an unhealthy state.
2. Understand, you cannot find love on the rebound. Don't get in a hurry to find your next love. Doing so will only lead to disaster and disillusionment.
3. Recognize that your next love will come along when you find someone who shares your interests. You need to develop your interests -- be it kayaking, camping out, dancing, or whatever. You are much more likely to attract a potential mate at places where others share your interests...."
- http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/building-great-marriages/201001/what-is-the-recipe-finding-love-again
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Source: PsychologyToday.com